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<img border="0" width="1" height="1" alt="Advertise with my Blog" src="http://linkfromblog.com/img.001.014569.gif"/>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-43642481783717560952012-04-18T17:26:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.288-07:00Permission to Take My Pants Off: How Not to Seduce a Woman<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoB5JXgfCYiZJA4RgQ4IHPRlVQUJ78cyJrF9ibRmbFnIytbgluAHfCed8bEL5f4Yt37_L3yhJ2NfzaOLpwWhC2zs_5V7s2RvgeuBAGu5JdIfJsUQ7sH-Faf29bsa3iMQ2Lf-9hh7AnixNX/s1600/shutterstock_28972021-199x300.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoB5JXgfCYiZJA4RgQ4IHPRlVQUJ78cyJrF9ibRmbFnIytbgluAHfCed8bEL5f4Yt37_L3yhJ2NfzaOLpwWhC2zs_5V7s2RvgeuBAGu5JdIfJsUQ7sH-Faf29bsa3iMQ2Lf-9hh7AnixNX/s1600/shutterstock_28972021-199x300.jpg" /></a></div><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">“Honey, it’s ok if you take your pants off,” Blake offered generously. Or at least, his tone sounded like the tone of a man who is being generous.</span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">“Thanks honey, but I’m cold. And working. And tired. And I like pants,” I added.</span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">“But it’s ok, darling, you don’t need to wear them. I really don’t even mind if you take them off!” He grinned cheekily, hoping his charming antics would seduce me into nudity.</span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">Nope.</span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white;"><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">Operation Pants Removal</strong></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><br /></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;">That conversation is repeated every day, sometimes multiple times. It has succeeded exactly zero times, but that doesn’t discourage Blake. “Someday you will learn the truth about pants,” he explains earnestly. “It’s like subliminal advertising. If I keep giving you permission, then your subconscious will eventually set you free from the terrible confines of wearing clothes all the damn time. See honey! I am only trying to help you!”</span></strong><br /><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="background-color: white; font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;"><br /></span></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;">Why is it that men have such a constant desire to remove our clothes? If Blake sat around working on his computer with his pants off, I would not be turned on. (And by “If,” I mean “Every day </span><em style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">when </em><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;">. . .”) But Blake is in a constant war with my wardrobe, deeming it his manly duty to vigilantly, valiantly pursue the goal of convincing me to disrobe.</span></strong><br /><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="background-color: white; font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;"><br /></span></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><strong style="line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">I Like Pants, But I Like Him Better</strong></strong><br /><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><strong style="background-color: white; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><br /></strong></strong><br /><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><strong style="background-color: white; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;">Sometimes his pestering annoys me. If I’m trying to concentrate and he keeps yammering about my pants, it is irritating, not sexy. I </span><em style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">know</em><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;"> that I can take my pants off. I am the master of my own clothes. If I have my pants on, it’s because I want to have my pants on. (Like I said, I like pants.)</span></strong></strong><br /><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><strong style="line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white; font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;"><br /></span></strong></strong><br /><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><strong style="background-color: white; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;">But in other little ways—telling me I’m beautiful, washing the dishes, having fun together in bed—Blake reminds me why he wages his anti-pants campaign: it’s because he truly loves to see anything and everything that is under my pants. He isn’t bored of me or disgusted by me. When he sees me in my underthings, he is enthralled, and he feels honored. And really, that’s pretty flattering.</span></strong></strong><br /><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><strong style="line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white; font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;"><br /></span></strong></strong><br /><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><strong style="background-color: white; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;">And so, sometimes I take my pants off for him. And it’s usually worth it.</span></strong></strong><br /><strong style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><strong style="line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white; font-weight: normal; line-height: 19px;"><br /></span></strong></strong><br /><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="background-color: white; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #252324; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: x-small;"><a href="http://www.mensweekly.co.uk/sex/permission-to-take-my-pants-off-how-not-to-seduce-a-woman/" target="_blank">Permission to Take My Pants Off: How Not to Seduce a Woman</a></span></span></span>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-57506388151400525202012-04-18T17:07:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.307-07:00THINK LIKE A MAN: How Soon Do You Give It Up Or Go Downtown?<span class="sep" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">by</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 13px;"> </span><span class="author-name vcard" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><a href="http://hellobeautiful.com/author/ionehellobeautiful/" rel="author" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgb(212, 212, 212); color: black; outline-color: initial; outline-style: none; outline-width: initial; text-decoration: none;" title="Posts by HelloBeautifulStaff">HelloBeautiful</a></span><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHb6e1aLEu9L-TZT8nVrSrgYvvKncMvpAqqxDfqgAZAZBoq71iX3_xcXPffn-p6gKSp9LR3obdQ7kOSvXJ4Xbt4H2XZmRhug7Cz8BKkwQAZJ7uEQ7knKvOr2unYbGcpnhBEeIFy3qmsQav/s1600/think-like-a-man-poster.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="245" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHb6e1aLEu9L-TZT8nVrSrgYvvKncMvpAqqxDfqgAZAZBoq71iX3_xcXPffn-p6gKSp9LR3obdQ7kOSvXJ4Xbt4H2XZmRhug7Cz8BKkwQAZJ7uEQ7knKvOr2unYbGcpnhBEeIFy3qmsQav/s400/think-like-a-man-poster.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">So, you’ve met someone that you like a lot,you’ve gone on a few dates and even spent some time kissing and feeling up on each other. It’s only natural that you want to take it to the next level. If a woman gets busy with a guy too soon, does she automatically nix her chances for long-term love? How soon do you give it up or go downtown?</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Our dating experts share their thoughts on this hot topic.</span><br /><br /><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>(Jozen Cumming) HE SAID:</b></span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">As far as I’m concerned, too many women are concerned with giving it up too soon. What they need to care about is giving it up too late?</div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">I’m certainly not going to be the guy who says a woman should give it up on the first date, but I will be the guy who lets you women in on a little secret: There are women who have actually gotten a ring put on their finger by a man who they gave it up to on the first date. And I’m not talking a small group of men either, I’m talking a large group of men out there who don’t judge a woman based on how quickly she gives it up or goes down on him.</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Trust me ladies, I’m one of those men.</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">If a woman thinks five dates is too soon to have sex with me, that’s fine, but she has to understand why that concerns me.</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">The ability to have sex with another person relies heavily on how comfortable we are with that person. If by date five a woman isn’t comfortable having sex with me, how is she even comfortable going out on date after date with me? I understand a date in a public space, where she’s safe under the guise of random bystanders is not the same as sex in a private space, where no one is watching, but frankly, if she’s not comfortable enough to share a bed with me by date five, I might have to move on because being around someone who isn’t comfortable with me after five dates will start to make me feel uncomfortable.</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">So to answer the question, I guess I’m saying, anything under five dates would not be too soon to give it up, but anything over five dates might be too late to give it up.</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">To be even more specific, there’s no way a relationship will be had without either of us</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>(Telisha Ng) SHE SAID:</b></span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">To me telling anyone when to have sex for the first time with someone they like is comparable to scheduling bathroom breaks. A handful of us were raised to believe that sex before marriage is wrong amongst other things so we’ve always had a mental timeline for intimacy and various life stages. I’ve heard of couples who got down on the first night and went to the altar months down the road; I’ve also heard of couples who waited until they said I do to consummate the marriage. The end result was the same- undying love.</span></span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">In my own personal life I’ve waited abiding by the 3-4-5-6-10-15-100 date rule and have come up from under the covers only to find that we weren’t compatible. I’ve also lived life on the edge and given in to my burning desires on the first date and went on to have a very fulfilling relationship. I care very little about what others may think, and I regret nothing although I’m fully aware that there is always backlash from those who do not support first date sex. I think the most barbaric mindset is one that would attach a timeline to intimacy. There is so much more at play when building a relationship with someone than sex.</span></span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Our bodies are our special and sex is a gift that we give to whomever we chose to.</span></span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Only you can decide on a timeline of when to give that gift. When we become intimate with anyone for the first time a risk is taken whether we have known the person for eons or an evening. Emotional attachment, sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy- sex is a gift that comes with a great deal of responsibility. And just like that Christmas gift you walked up and down the mall for, there is always a chance that the person on the receiving end may not appreciate it, no matter how much pretty wrapping paper you use.</span></span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Know what you want out of a relationship, talk about sex and being intimate with the person you are considering and please pay attention to your good friend intuition, she misses you!</span></span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">The reason relationships fail is not based on how soon you give it up or go downtown, it’s from a lack of communication.</span></span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif;"><a href="http://hellobeautiful.com/2510737/think-like-a-man-how-soon-do-you-give-it-up-or-go-downtown/" target="_blank">THINK LIKE A MAN: How Soon Do You Give It Up Or Go Downtown?</a></span></span></div>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-50116302691104755812012-04-18T17:01:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.332-07:00“He Won’t Leave Me Alone Despite Me Telling Him That I’m Not Interested In Him”by Terrance Dean<br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1QEPbrn2SVfqBtihyphenhyphenhOg0TdcULW-C8eRkudeQHqzvRxdkTkbPOEXIJDPbahf8-Y5MHJ_kSynvYsoDO3IS8RRSuZg_woYtI0aLs0_qm2mDkZ9DOV4zR3vk_-Wv_wtw8uaWyZG56hiqykPG/s1600/black-couple-speaking.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="237" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1QEPbrn2SVfqBtihyphenhyphenhOg0TdcULW-C8eRkudeQHqzvRxdkTkbPOEXIJDPbahf8-Y5MHJ_kSynvYsoDO3IS8RRSuZg_woYtI0aLs0_qm2mDkZ9DOV4zR3vk_-Wv_wtw8uaWyZG56hiqykPG/s400/black-couple-speaking.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">You’ve got questions? He’s got answers!</div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Email your questions to Your Gay Best Friend at: girlworkonyou@aol.com</div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Dear <strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Gay Best Friend</em></strong>,</div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">How does one break up with a man that one is not even casually dating? Let me explain. The guy in question is my sister’s nephew-in-law, her sister-in-law’s son (55). All family activities are held at my sister’s house (her pool is larger than mine). This guy’s family members are constantly trying to MAKE me not only go out but MARRY him. Why, one might ask? Simply, I am 43, post divorce 20 years and have not been in a serious relationship since 2005. Further, I am a single mom with 2 kids 17 and 19 away at university, and am a homeowner with an empty nest.</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">This man corners me at every family event for hours until I just excuse myself. I show him no emotions that I am interested. No flirting. I even make it impossible for him to sit next to me. He just counters and sits on the floor blocking my freedom staring at me. No conversation, nothing. I if move, he follows. He followed me to the bathroom once. He calls my sister’s house everyday to see if I am there. If I am he asks to speak to me. If I refuse, he jumps in MOMMY’S car and rushes over to force conversation. I leave. I do not return his phone calls. I do not accept his gifts.</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">This man has the audacity to show up at the movie theater every Friday night because he KNOWS that is where I go for family night with my boys. I have asked him to stop calling to no avail. I changed my number. I have asked him to stop the gifts of bootlegged properties but he leaves gifts at sis’s. I have done nothing to lead this man to my path. He is obsessed with photos texted to him by my sister, my brother-in-law, and his mother. I have told him those photos were not sent by me. It is awful, unwanted, unwarranted photos of me taken without my permission. Some are swimsuit shots, butt shots, shots with my back ALWAYS to the camera doing ordinary things. Some might find these photos provocative, I am fit and look much younger than I am. However, I do not pose for these photos, and I protest their submission. My relatives know that I do not like this man and this man knows that I want no further contact. Sometimes, I don’t go to the family events just to avoid him.</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">I do not want to get a restraining order because that would cause a family schism with the in-law set. I have face to face refused his offers. My kids have refused his expensive gifts. I am sorry his family has romanticized some relationship for him but I told him I am not the originator of the photos. I have told him that he WAS a family friend but I CHOOSE to not interact with him at all to remove any doubt that there is any implied relationship. He accused me of hiding from him. I told him I was not hiding but totally avoiding his contact because I am not interested. He was mad and still is. He still calls my sister frequently, daily just to see if “I am doing ok, and oh, by the way, is she there, if she is don’t tell her I called, don’t tell her I am coming over.”</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Maybe it is not his fault that his relatives have fed him wrongly obtained information. Private information. Detailed information that could possibly make someone INFER that a relationship is possible and maybe even casually exists…. It is not MY fault. I read your publications and the comments to well posed questions. Most think the answer to my question is don’t return the calls or text. I did an in person break up to someone I was not even dating. I changed my number as well as email address. I even closed out with YouTube and facebook. I cannot ask my brother-in-law who was my brother-in-law (65) before I was born to ban his nephew anymore than I can end a relationship with my sister (65).</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">I do not wish to get a restraining order either. I did that option against the 25 year old son of my next door neighbor after repeatedly asking my neighbor to speak to her son about his stalking and unwanted advances from a </span><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 14px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline;">child</span></strong><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">. Big mistake. When I found him sleeping on my deck, I called the authorities, he was arrested, making some of my neighbors mad at me. His reasoning was that he was returning some ‘important misplaced mail’ to me and that he didn’t want to get in trouble for ‘messing’ with my mailbox so he went to sleep waiting on my property for me to return. He hung himself when he told the court that I was not married and that I spent 2 hours a day by my pool in a bikini swimming and grilling on purpose. Plus, my home is surrounded by privacy fencing (You would need binoculars or a spy cam because our properties are not close together).</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">No, I am not looking for woe is me, yada, yada,…etc. I would like to know from a male standpoint what words would make a man understand that:</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">1. I do not want to ever pursue a relationship with you</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">2. We can not even be family friends because you would misconstrue this</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">3. I avoid contact with you to basically to keep you from being mad at me</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">4. Just because I am single does not mean I am available to anyone who is interested</span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">No, I do not think I am all that. Yes, I do not want to hurt or make anyone mad; however, I am unhappy in trying to be nice and keep everyone else happy. So…Tell Me Like It Is (Please and Thank You). And I will work on me! – </span><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Not Interested In Him</b></em></span></div><div style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; padding-bottom: 1.5em; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b><a href="http://hellobeautiful.com/2510844/he-wont-leave-me-alone-despite-me-telling-him-that-im-not-interested-in-him/" target="_blank">Read More:</a></b></em></span></div>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-60347074070551028902012-04-17T11:46:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.360-07:00My Girlfriend Has A Close Male Friend--Should I Be Upset?<span style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: grey; font-family: verdana, arial, sans-serif; text-align: left;">By Mybrotha.COM Relationship Editor</span><br /><span style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: grey; font-family: verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 9px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: verdana, arial, helvetica; text-align: left;">Should I be upset if my girlfriend has a close male friend?</span><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIj7qJfKszzl-465TozNti4LWmi7E89BfWeKij1LRsdSJu8MkN78rlXf9bJMBQrMU9DQoMBR44ZznQilJK0YbhEC9X0zgcVkfJXgfjQGKOXU3XKug5-KljGx2jnKxLgmY2zgghlJrnUAgp/s1600/images.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIj7qJfKszzl-465TozNti4LWmi7E89BfWeKij1LRsdSJu8MkN78rlXf9bJMBQrMU9DQoMBR44ZznQilJK0YbhEC9X0zgcVkfJXgfjQGKOXU3XKug5-KljGx2jnKxLgmY2zgghlJrnUAgp/s1600/images.jpg" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana, arial, sans-serif, helvetica; font-size: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-family: verdana, arial, sans-serif, helvetica; font-size: 18px; text-align: left;"><b>Question from Brandon R.:</b></span><br /><br /><div><br /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica; text-align: left;">I'm not a jealous person, but I sometimes wonder if my girlfriend is too close to one of her male friends. She has known him for almost 9 years and they seem to get along great. She tells me funny things he said, or mentions things going on in his life. It seems she thinks the world of him and I sometimes wonder if she speaks equally highly of me when I'm not there.</span></div><div><span style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #663300; font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica; font-size: 12px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica; text-align: left;">I am in the military, and at first, I thought she was spending more time chatting with him because I wasn't around. But the longest time I've been away was 6 months. Other than that, I am there with her. When she mentions him, it's never anything sexual or disrespectful, and it only happens occasionally.</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="background-color: #f9f9f9; font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica; text-align: left;">My heart tells me that it's probably innocent. But maybe my ego is getting bruised a little? Should I be worried?</span><div style="background-color: #f9f9f9; font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica; text-align: left;">-- Brandon R.</div><div style="background-color: #f9f9f9; font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><h2 class="indexblk" style="background-color: #f9f9f9; font-family: verdana, arial, sans-serif, helvetica; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">The Brothas Response:</h2><div style="background-color: #f9f9f9; font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica;"><br /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica;">Hi Brandon,</span><div style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica;"><span style="background-color: white;">First of all, we thank you for your dedication and service to our country.<br /><br />Having outside friendships can be healthy for a relationship. This doesn't mean each person should go out and find friends of the opposite sex. But established friendships (ones that existed before you came together) can be meaningful. Those friends can help us stay balanced, challenge our thinking, support our ideas, and enhance our well-being.<br /><br />When dating, most women you meet will have one or two male friends with whom they can talk about anything. This usually subsides when they start a long-term relationship, but may not disappear entirely. Keep in mind that no one person can meet every need of their partner. It would be unfair to assume that a single individual could meet all of our needs, and it's downright narcissistic to believe that we could satisfy all of their needs.<br /><br />Your girlfriend may have a certain platonic connection with her male friends based solely on humor, commonalities, hobbies, culture, or history. This doesn't mean you're less important as a relationship partner--it just means she has varied interests or needs you can't meet. We all have those.<br /><br />There are times, however, where these platonic friendships can become hazardous. For example, if your girl thinks about him a lot, or invests a lot of emotional energy in him, it could be a problem. Does she depend on him more than she depends on you? Will she go out of her way to support him? How well do you know the guy? Does she hide him from you? Answers to these questions can be crucial in determining whether she's simply enjoying her friendships, or something more.<br /><br />It really comes down to communicating with your partner. If you trust your girl, talk to her about it. If your trust is beginning to waver, talk to her about it. Did we mention that you should talk with her about it?</span></div><div style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica;"><span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span></div><div style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica;"><img alt="The Brothas" border="0" src="http://www.mybrotha.com/images/brothas-sig.gif" style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #663300; font-size: 12px;" /></div><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif, helvetica;"><a href="http://www.mybrotha.com/girlfriend-has-male-friends.asp" target="_blank">My Girlfriend Has A Close Male Friend--Should I Be Upset?</a></span></div></div><div></div>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-53035638020072837192012-04-17T11:07:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.387-07:00There’s a Fine Line Between Smart and Ass<span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">by </span><a href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/author/dennishong/" rel="author" style="color: #78061d; font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;" title="Posts by Dennis Hong">Dennis Hong</a><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAOLsTQxSFBlhzYUa-4E5jBdfziPMfONvk09hzvl0YMe-QctKeaw2QN920FTOgtlbpIvuq3ZCxpqcLXzRyuRP8DxT0zbGu9HBgcI0hyphenhyphenuWTpoekHHTGhSCd26RBbLtAECuWuB-szNp34VqI/s1600/donkey-150x150.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAOLsTQxSFBlhzYUa-4E5jBdfziPMfONvk09hzvl0YMe-QctKeaw2QN920FTOgtlbpIvuq3ZCxpqcLXzRyuRP8DxT0zbGu9HBgcI0hyphenhyphenuWTpoekHHTGhSCd26RBbLtAECuWuB-szNp34VqI/s400/donkey-150x150.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;">As anyone who’s ever suffered through a bout of online dating knows, when you’re filling out your dating profile, you have to type in these little packets of personal information.</span><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;">One self-description that I invariably put down is that I can be a bit of a smart-ass. I put this down because… well, I’ve been known to </span><a href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2012/04/11/i-made-a-girl-cry-on-the-first-date/" style="color: #78061d; font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;">make girls cry on the first date</a><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;">. You know how “curvy” has become the </span><a href="http://www.musingsonlifeandlove.com/2009/08/09/dennis-online-dating-dictionary/" style="color: #78061d; font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;" target="_blank">online dating euphemism</a><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;"> for “grotesquely overweight”? Well, “smart-ass” is my personal euphemism for “may make you cry.”</span><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;">I feel it’s only fair that I warn my potential dates in advance.</span><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;">Not too surprisingly, I often get matched up with other self-professed smart-asses. Unfortunately, some people don’t seem to understand the difference between being a smart-ass and being an ass. Hey, I admit it. I’ve had issues with it myself. (Again, I made a girl CRY. On a FIRST DATE.) And, to be perfectly honest, I still lapse occasionally… er, frequently from smart-ass to plain ass.</span><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;">You see, there’s a fine line between sarcastic and insulting. Being sarcastic takes intelligence, a quick wit, and some amount of lucky timing. Being insulting is just the clueless person’s substitute for true sarcasm.</span><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;">Let me tell you about an evening once spent between two self-professed smart-asses who were matched up online:</span><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;">We’re hanging out in my room. She happens to have a bottle of Diet Coke with her. She opens the bottle, takes a sip, then drops it and spills a decent amount of soda on my bed. I groan and say, “Alright, whatever. Here, get up. I’m gonna change the sheets.”</span><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;">She says: “Don’t worry, we’ll just cover it up. You can change them in the morning.”</span><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; text-align: left;">I say: “Ummm, I’d rather just change them right now. I’m not gonna sleep on a Coke stain.”</span><br /><br /><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">[<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">SSSSSKRRRRRRTTTTTTZZZZZZZZZZZZ</em>] Time out.</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><img alt="Theres a Fine Line Between Smart and Ass i am not a role model trans" src="http://www.musingsonlifeandlove.com/wp-includes/js/tinymce/plugins/wordpress/img/trans.gif" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; max-width: 100%; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" title="i am not a role model Theres a Fine Line Between Smart and Ass " />If this article were an episode of some cleverly hip ‘90s sitcom, the action would suddenly freeze, and you’d hear the sound of a record scratching, followed by my snarky voice-over.</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">Or, even cleverer, I break character, look straight into the camera, and address the viewers, while everything around me—including my date—remains frozen.</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">And I say something along the lines of:</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"></div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">“At this point, ladies and gentleman, my date has several possible responses. Which do you consider to be appropriately smart-ass? Which do you consider to be walking that fine line, but still somewhat clever? And which do you consider to be just plain insulting?”</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Animated text zips across the screen, and you see the following three choices:</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">[<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Swoosh</em>] A. “What, is the caffeine gonna keep you awake?”</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">[<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Swoosh</em>] B. “Oh, you’re not used to sleeping on a wet spot?”</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">[<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Swoosh</em>] C. “What are you, OCD?”</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"></div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">“Now, ladies and gentlemen, which option do you suppose my ever-so-sarcastic date chose?”</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Really, is there anything clever or ironic about that last comment? (Because, in case my ass is too smart for you to figure out, that’s what she said.) Or is it just… well, rude? What if I really did suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder? What then?</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">As it is, I <em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">am</em> somewhat anal, so I’m used to the OCD comments. If I was bothered at all, it was mostly because she’d warned me that she was extremely sarcastic, but all she’d done up to this point was pepper our conversations with comments like these, none of which I found to be particularly witty or clever. Still, it wasn’t that big a deal, so I let it go.</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">It only became a big deal when she decided to reference my supposed OCD-ness at least seven times over the next hour. Really? She couldn’t come up with anything new to say?</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">That’s where she crossed the line from “smart” to “ass.”</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"></div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Okay, so where exactly is that line then? Do we automatically click over from funny to annoying between the sixth and seventh times we make the same comment? Is there some rule that will draw the definitive distinction between sarcasm and insult?</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">I don’t think so. I think we have to be take it on a case-by-case basis… like the Supreme Court’s assessment of pornography: “I’ll know it when I see it.”</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">That’s how it works with sarcasm, too: “I’ll know it when I hear it.” And in this case, she was definitely being insulting, especially when she kept bringing it up over and over and over again.</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Of course, the worst part of all this is that I now have a permanent brown stain on my mattress….</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Pop quiz: what’s an appropriate smart-ass response to this?</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">A. Whoa, I think you’ve got way more than just a bed-wetting problem.</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">B. Suck it up. It’s just a stain.</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">See? I told you there’s a fine line between smart and ass.</div><div style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.6em; margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Oh, and it’s not the hyphen. Smart-ass.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.7em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/" target="_blank">There’s a Fine Line Between Smart and Ass</a></span></span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; text-align: left;"><br /></span>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-57958119416007632282012-04-17T10:58:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.405-07:0010 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life<strong class="label" style="background-color: white; font-family: helvetica, arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">by </strong><span class="name" style="background-color: white; font-family: helvetica, arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://www.glamour.com/contributors/marissa-gold" style="color: #3798b9; text-decoration: none;">Marissa Gold</a></span><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">How many kinds of </span><a href="http://www.glamour.com/about/sex" style="color: #3798b9; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">sex</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"> have you had? We’ve got 10 must-try types to add to your bedroom bucket list. Top sex experts reveal what they are—and why they’re so worth it.</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><h3 class="content-headline" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(197, 193, 193); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 8px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 6px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Bathroom Sex</h3><div><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-6_CoupleBathroom_li.jpg" /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">The most underrated room to have sex in is your bathroom. No joke. “This is why God created bathroom counters,” says Somoza. “Thanks to the mirrors, your guy gets to watch all of the action, which makes it even hotter.” Other options? “Use the tub or the toilet to prop yourself into position,” suggests sex educator </span><a href="http://www.gasm.org/" style="color: #3798b9; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Jamye Waxman, M.Ed</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">. You can even light candles and create some sexy steam from the shower to add extra atmosphere.</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><h3 class="content-headline" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(197, 193, 193); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 8px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 6px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Makeup Sex</h3></div><div><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-7_CoupleAboutoKiss_li.jpg" /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">You know when you’re mad at him but also find him incredibly attractive? When you really want to rip off his clothes but also want to resist because you think you should teach him a lesson? Don’t resist. “Makeup sex is hot, steamy and loaded with all the emotion you just went through,” says Somoza. Whether you’re exes getting back together or just a couple reuniting after a fight, makeup sex has a certain electric charge we rarely feel in normal circumstances.</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><h3 class="content-headline" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(197, 193, 193); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 8px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 6px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Lazy Sex</h3></div><div><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-8_CoupleUnderCovers_li.jpg" /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">Sex doesn’t always have to be a WWF throwdown in the bedroom. The next time you’re sleeping in on a weekend, casually remove all your clothes and then snuggle up to your man so he can feel your naked body. Since men have extra-high testosterone levels in the morning, he’s practically guaranteed to be down for the action. Having that type of relaxed, low-maintenance sex is great for de-stressing and keeping you connected.</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><h3 class="content-headline" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(197, 193, 193); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 8px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 6px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Loud Sex</h3></div><div><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-9_PassionateBed_li.jpg" /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">You know all those four-letter words you’re too afraid to say? At least once, let yourself get so totally into it that you use them. All. Share a bottle of wine and psych yourself up to do things you’d never do—like telling him to spank you or demanding he give you an orgasm (while telling him how in explicit detail). Instead of lying on your back during oral, be bold and straddle him instead. And don’t be shy to make noise—in fact, make an effort to be even louder than usual (it will only increase the physical sensation).</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><h3 class="content-headline" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(197, 193, 193); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 8px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 6px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Sex Somewhere Famous</h3></div><div><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-10_CoupleGrandCanyon_li.jpg" /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">“Having sex in, near or looking at a national landmark turns an amazing experience into an extraordinary one,” says Cox. “You’re still not truly convinced you’re there, so everything seems surreal.” So do it on your hotel balcony overlooking the Hollywood sign, hook up in a quiet stairwell of the Louvre or get busy on your hike to the Grand Canyon. You will </span><em style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">never</em><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"> forget it.</span><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span><span style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 18px;"></span></span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 19px;"><a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2012/03/10-types-of-sex-to-try-at-least-once-in-your-life#ixzz1sK0SfELj" target="_blank">Read More</a></span></span></span></div><div><dd style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; 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border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><a href="http://www.glamour.com/about/what-men-want" style="color: #3798b9; text-decoration: none;">what men want</a>,</dd><dd style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><a href="http://www.glamour.com/about/orgasm" style="color: #3798b9; text-decoration: none;">orgasm</a></dd><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /><br /></span></div>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-54722435481667688552012-04-17T10:53:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.443-07:0010 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life<strong class="label" style="background-color: white; font-family: helvetica, arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">by </strong><span class="name" style="background-color: white; font-family: helvetica, arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://www.glamour.com/contributors/marissa-gold" style="color: #3798b9; text-decoration: none;">Marissa Gold</a></span><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">How many kinds of </span><a href="http://www.glamour.com/about/sex" style="color: #3798b9; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">sex</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"> have you had? We’ve got 10 must-try types to add to your bedroom bucket list. Top sex experts reveal what they are—and why they’re so worth it.</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-1_CoupleBackToBack_li.jpg" /><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">“We all have fantasies,” says sex expert </span><a href="http://www.blissinthebedroom.com/" style="color: #3798b9; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Lora Somoza</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">. “If you’re in a committed relationship and you find yourself dreaming about a hot cop with handcuffs, don’t be shy [about asking] your guy to play it out.” Role playing allows you both to have the thrill of sleeping with different people without, well, actually sleeping with other people, so it just might be the key to keeping monogamy hot. “If you’re not sure where to begin, try ‘pretending you don’t know each other’ sex,” suggests Somoza. It will give you the freedom to take on a new personality and do things you wouldn’t normally do—but always wanted to.</span><br /><span style="text-align: left;"><div><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span></div></span><h3 class="content-headline" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(197, 193, 193); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 8px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 6px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Sex Somewhere Splurge-y</h3><div><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-2_CoupleHotelRoom_li.jpg" /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">Ever notice how staying in a fancy-pants hotel puts you in the mood like nothing else? Sex expert </span><a href="http://www.amazon.com/SEX-SOS-Commonly-Questions-ebook/dp/B006RAC78K" style="color: #3798b9; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Tracey Cox</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"> explains why: “Few of us are cashed up enough to experience luxury every day, so when we’re staying at a flashy hotel, it’s pretty exciting,” she says. Even if you can’t afford a five-star vacation, upgrade just one night of your next trip to a swanky hotel, or book a night at a posh place in your city for a sexy change of scenery at home.</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><h3 class="content-headline" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(197, 193, 193); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 8px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 6px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Sex in a Public Place</h3></div><div><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-3_CoupleMovies_li.jpg" /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">The idea of getting caught in the act can be kind of exciting, but that doesn’t mean you have to be an exhibitionist to enjoy it. “Try finding an abandoned parking lot or sitting in the last row at the movies and guiding his hand somewhere naughty,” says Somoza. Even if you have to rush home to </span><em style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">really</em><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"> get down to action, you’ll be so revved up by then that the sex will be amazing.</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><h3 class="content-headline" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(197, 193, 193); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 8px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 6px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Sex on the Beach</h3></div><div><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-4_SexOnBeach_li.jpg" /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">Sun. Crashing waves. Hot guy. Enough said. If there’s a drink named after it, it has to be good, right? Expand your idea of sex on the beach beyond the sand to include lounge chairs, your hotel balcony or even under water.</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><h3 class="content-headline" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(197, 193, 193); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 8px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 6px; padding-bottom: 3px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Forbidden Sex</h3></div><div><img alt="10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once in Your Life" src="http://www.glamour.com/images/sex-love-life/2012/03/0320-5_WomanUndressing_li.jpg" /></div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">“If the best-selling book </span><a href="http://www.glamour.com/entertainment/blogs/obsessed/2012/03/so-uh-im-reading-fifty-shades.html" style="color: #3798b9; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><em>50 Shades of Grey</em></a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"> tells us anything, it’s that women like a little kink,” says Somoza. So regardless of who wears the pants in the relationship, decide who’s going to wear the restraints in the bedroom. “Maybe you want your guy to tie you up and do dirty things to you,” she says. But if you’d rather show him who’s boss, let him know he’s going to be </span><em style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">your</em><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"> sex slave for the night and tell him the only rule is that he can’t say no (and, um, why would he want to?).</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /><br /><a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2012/03/10-types-of-sex-to-try-at-least-once-in-your-life#ixzz1sJzAzQ1W" target="_blank">Read More </a></span><div><dd style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0px; 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font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-60521608190898039692012-04-17T10:43:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.461-07:0013 of the Grossest, Weirdest Pickup Lines We Have Ever Heard, Ever.<span style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 12px; text-align: right;">by </span><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; line-height: 12px; text-align: right;"><a href="http://www.glamour.com/contributors/anna-breslaw" style="color: black; text-decoration: none;" title="search site for content by Anna Breslaw">Anna Breslaw</a> </cite><br /><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; line-height: 12px; text-align: right;"><br /></cite><br /><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-style: normal; line-height: 12px; text-align: right;"><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">The very concept of catcalls and pickup lines are weird enough: Does this guy really think that he can get us to go home with him with the power of one phrase? Apparently, some do. And here are some real winners.</span><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: 14px;"><img alt="0416-guy-speech-bubble-sm.jpg" height="419" src="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2012/04/16/0416-guy-speech-bubble-sm.jpg" width="640" /></span></cite><br /><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; line-height: 12px; text-align: right;"><br /></cite><br /><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-style: normal; line-height: 12px; text-align: right;"><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">Below is a motley assortment of one-liners that my friends and I have gotten from<span style="font-size: small;"> </span></span><a href="http://www.glamour.com/about/men" style="color: #3798b9; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;">men</a><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: small;"> </span>(who were also possibly parolees) over the years at bars and such. Unsurprisingly, many of them are variations on a theme (fertility), but there are some wild cards in the pack. It's not even that they're cheesy. They're simply straight-up weird.</span><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><b style="line-height: 12px;"><em style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /></em></b></cite><br /><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-style: normal; line-height: 12px; text-align: right;"><b style="line-height: 12px;"><em style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">[girl passes by wearing massive, thick winter coat that obscures any curves she may have.] </em><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">"Mmm, you are a baby-making machine, girl."</span></b></cite><br /><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; text-align: right;"><b style="color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-style: normal; line-height: 12px;"><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></b></cite><br /><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-style: normal; line-height: 12px; text-align: right;"><span style="line-height: 12px;"><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">"Hi, my name's ____. I wanna make you pregnant." [</span><em style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">Not even "get you pregnant." Make you pregnant.</em><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">]</span></span></cite><br /><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; font-style: normal; text-align: right;"><b style="background-color: white; color: black; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 20px; text-align: -webkit-auto;"><br /></b></cite><br /><cite class="vcard author" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-style: normal; line-height: 12px; text-align: right;"><span style="background-color: white; color: black; line-height: 20px; text-align: -webkit-auto;"><b>"You would look beautiful with child."</b></span></cite><br /><b style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 20px;"><br /></b><br /><b style="background-color: white; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 20px;">"Are you ovulating?"</b><br /><b style="font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /></b><br /><b style="font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">"I would go down on you if you were on your period."</b><br /><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span></b><br /><b style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">"Are you post-menopausal yet?" </span><em style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">[Incredibly, some guy asked my mom this.]</em></b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;"><b style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 20px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">"I wish I was your tampon."</b></span></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 20px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">"I killed a man once."</b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">"Just by looking at you, I can tell you didn't have a father."</b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">"Your name is Anna? It must be fate. My mother's name is Anna." [</span><em style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">creepy toothless man shows me a tattoo on his arm that says "Anna."</em><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">]</span></b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">"What time is it? Good, because I wanted to know the exact moment I first saw you."</b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 20px; text-align: -webkit-auto;"><a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2012/01/hey-butter-tits-and-other-horr.html" style="color: black; text-decoration: none;">"Hey, butter tits."</a></b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">And the #1 winner for creepiest pick-up line of all time is...</b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 20px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">"You got lil' baked bean teeth."</b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="line-height: 18px;"><span style="line-height: 18px;">EW. What? Right? Let's just hope these aren't </span><a href="http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2008/09/10-things-hes-thinking-when-youre-naked#slide=1" style="color: #3798b9; line-height: 18px; text-decoration: none;">the things that dudes are thinking when we're naked, right?</a><span style="line-height: 18px;"> Give me the weirdest pickup line you've ever gotten below, although I bet it can't compete with baked bean teeth.</span></b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0.8em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><b style="line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">More on <a href="http://www.glamour.com/about/men" style="color: #3798b9; text-decoration: none;">men</a> and their pick-up lines:</span></b></div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; 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font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><span style="color: black; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /></span>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-25205789581339103862012-04-15T16:12:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.479-07:00Compassion Matters<b>How to Tell the Difference Between Real Love and Fantasy</b><br /><b><br /></b><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">by Lisa Firestone</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #666666; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;">Is a fantasy bond keeping us from staying in love?</span><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaKBPi9o9QhNQl73yRwsHuMmy9KRLAowXvZh19cLPvdbCDdVK0ZEv5qAzUNJE2cBpL7UjTroTQlh0Wm26JTZ2qcAumyB1QA8UoVrjP0tYRJZbZkEvjOQP6aubMkfJZYqFZdYJkalo4H_ZH/s1600/58455-51189.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaKBPi9o9QhNQl73yRwsHuMmy9KRLAowXvZh19cLPvdbCDdVK0ZEv5qAzUNJE2cBpL7UjTroTQlh0Wm26JTZ2qcAumyB1QA8UoVrjP0tYRJZbZkEvjOQP6aubMkfJZYqFZdYJkalo4H_ZH/s400/58455-51189.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">As children, we often form a fantasy of what real love looks like. Though we may paint a pretty picture in our minds, this fantasy isn't necessarily built on the admirable qualities we truly desire in a partner. Instead, it may be based on gaps we hope to one day fill, mistakes we aim to correct, and familiarities we've grown accustomed to. We may seek a partner whose outpour of compliments submerges the low </span><a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/self-esteem" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: black; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Self-Esteem">self-esteem</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> we held as kids or someone whose allusive tendencies are a sadly familiar reenactment of an important figure from our </span><a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/child-development" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: black; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Child Development">childhood</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">It's no great surprise that fantasy can lead us to choose romantic partners for the wrong reasons. And even if we choose them for all the right reasons, our devotion to our </span><a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/fantasies" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Fantasies">fantasies</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> can eventually lead us to destroy any real sense of connection. So with all these early </span><a class="ext" href="http://www.psychalive.org/2009/06/fear-of-intimacy-2/" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;" target="_blank">defenses</a><span class="ext" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: url(http://rsrc.psychologytoday.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/extlink/extlink.png); background-origin: initial; background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; padding-right: 12px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> quietly operating within us, how do we separate honest love from an illusion of connection? How do we protect something real and exciting from the deadening effects of what my father, psychologist </span><a class="ext" href="http://glendon.org/index.php?pageid=32" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;" target="_blank">Dr. Robert Firestone,</a><span class="ext" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: url(http://rsrc.psychologytoday.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/extlink/extlink.png); background-origin: initial; background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; padding-right: 12px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">termed "</span><a class="ext" href="http://www.psychalive.org/2009/06/fantasy-bond/" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;" target="_blank">The Fantasy Bond</a><span class="ext" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: url(http://rsrc.psychologytoday.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/extlink/extlink.png); background-origin: initial; background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; padding-right: 12px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">?"</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">A fantasy bond is created when two people replace real acts of genuine love, admiration, passion, and respect with the role and ritual of "being" in a relationship. Though this process is often </span><a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/unconscious" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Unconscious">unconscious</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">, people can begin to recognize patterns and behaviors characterized by a Fantasy Bond that are destructive to their closest relationships. By comparing interactions in an ideal relationship with interactions in a relationship under the influence of a Fantasy Bond, a person can begin to act against their own limiting tendencies and dramatically improve their relationship.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUW6LdKl57sWshaQTnBQRh-lAwMn5DgHJgfyRCxbad_RlimVaRgD8iidOhiVYDgQbiBQY229NkzZTebQVu4B9TcmQdR2FzsYUVDCenoY8soVCvltwDx9IoSdtuk1MLc_JHKdc6NbfPFVo7/s1600/images.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="307" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUW6LdKl57sWshaQTnBQRh-lAwMn5DgHJgfyRCxbad_RlimVaRgD8iidOhiVYDgQbiBQY229NkzZTebQVu4B9TcmQdR2FzsYUVDCenoY8soVCvltwDx9IoSdtuk1MLc_JHKdc6NbfPFVo7/s400/images.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Non-defensive and Open Vs Angry and Closed Off</strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></strong><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Our reactions to feedback are good indicators of our potential to resolve problems in our relationships. When we are closed to criticism, suggestions, or new experiences, we limit ourselves and our partners in ways that impair our interactions. When we </span><a class="ext" href="http://www.psychalive.org/2009/11/three-things-that-make-communication-impossible/" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;" target="_blank">communicate</a><span class="ext" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: url(http://rsrc.psychologytoday.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/extlink/extlink.png); background-origin: initial; background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; padding-right: 12px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> with our partners, it's important to look for the kernel of truth in what they are saying instead of sifting through each statement for flaws or inaccuracies around the edges.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">For example, a friend of mine was recently talking to her husband who confided that her habit of working on her computer five nights a week left him feeling hurt and cast aside. Instead of responding with compassion or sensitivity, my friend angrily corrected him, stating that she'd only worked on her computer for three nights that week. She later realized how defensive she had been and how her posture had distanced her from her husband rather than bringing them closer together, as the conversation could have.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Honest Versus Deceptive</strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></strong><br /><br /><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Often, couples start to use routines to prove they are close instead of actually taking time to relate to each other. When in the role of a relationship, you can lose a sense of who you really are and how you really feel. Do you ever say "I love you," then find yourself treating the person you say you love with less respect then you would an unlikeable stranger? Have you ever found yourself criticizing or becoming annoyed at your partner in a way that is out of character for you?</div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">You may think you are being honest in an emotional conversation, but your true feelings can betray you in a time of <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/anger" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Anger">anger</a>, frustration, or impatience. To be honest with your partner you have to know yourself. Take time to reflect on how you feel and express it in a way that is sensitive and respectful, and make sure your actions match your words.</div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><strong>Respect for Independence Vs Overstepping Boundaries</strong></div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><strong><br /></strong></div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">In any relationship, it's important to be aware of when<a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201102/how-not-lose-the-me-when-becoming-we" style="color: #333333;" target="_blank"> "I" statements become "we" statements</a>. When people first start <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/mating" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Mating ">dating</a>, they often hold a natural respect for their partner as a separate individual. Interactions are personal and genuine interest is expressed between the two people. However, couples may eventually begin to lose their sense of being autonomous individuals. Instead of a personal interaction, conversations become about practical expectations- i.e. have you fed the dog? When we lose a level of respect for our partners, we may begin to act in ways that are intrusive or manipulative as opposed<em> </em>to sensitive and independent.</div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><strong>Physical Affection and Personal <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/sex" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Sex">Sexuality</a> Vs Lack of Affection and Routine Sexuality</strong></div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><strong><br /></strong></div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">It is obvious that the passion has dwindled when a couple, sitting in a romantic, candlelit bistro, is spending more time chatting up the waiter and checking their respective mobile devices than talking to each other. Both people have clearly checked out long before receiving their check. Eye contact, hand holding, and flirtatious exchanges appear to be things of the past.</div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Once a relationship becomes routine, restrictive, and less an act of <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/free-will" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Free Will">free will</a>, sex and physical affection can become less frequent or impersonal. Many couples describe their once spontaneous and exciting sex lives as becoming mechanical. This is often the result of forgoing the unpredictability of real love with the more predictable, yet ultimately harmful, form of a fantasy bond. We can act <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/jealousy" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Jealousy">jealous</a>, controlling, manipulative and demanding in an effort to feel secure in our relationships, but these qualities also serve to remove our feelings of passion and attraction toward our partners.</div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></div><br /><strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></strong><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="360" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/90c9pEtZquw" width="480"></iframe><br /><br /><strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/empathy" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Empathy ">Understanding</a> Vs Misunderstanding</strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></strong><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">How can it be that someone we once loved so much is all of a sudden driving us crazy? Moreover, why does a characteristic in a person that we used to adore all of a sudden have us holding back shouts of annoyance? When two people first meet and are getting to know each other, they see each other for who they are and fall in love as a result. After a while, they each begin to act out old negative patterns, and in the process, distort their partner to fit familiar patterns from their pasts.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">For example, if you felt neglected as a child, you may long to be taken care of in ways that are unnecessary in your current life as an adult. Thus, when your partner treats you an as equal or looks to </span><em style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">you</em><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> for care, your reaction may be to see your partner critically or view him or her as weak.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">On the opposite side of the same coin, if your partner reassures you to try to compensate for an insecurity or fill an old sense of emptiness by telling you that you are perfect, you won't necessarily feel good. Knowing that your actions don't meet </span><em style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">their </em><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">words, or that your partner's build up is inauthentic can make you feel even worse. It is important to hold a realistic, balanced point of view toward your partner, seeing him or her through compassionate, yet accurate eyes. It is equally important for your partner to see you through this same realistic viewpoint.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Manipulations of Dominance Vs Non-controlling Behaviors</strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></strong><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">When you first fall in love, your heart, your thinking, and your world expands to accommodate the genuine joy you experience from getting to know another person. A relationship should expand your world - from the people you are friends with to the activities you enjoy. When you start to fall into a routine, stop taking chances and showing enthusiasm for your partner, your world narrows.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Putting restrictions on our relationships and limiting a partner is something we do to create a sense of false security in ourselves. This security is actually a form of fantasy that serves to distance us from our partners. Not only does it make us less attractive to them, but it makes us less attracted to them. No longer are they the independent, self-possessed people we were drawn to, but they are now under our influence in certain negative ways. Just as we can make a person feel confident with a sincere feeling of love, we can make them feel inadequate by controlling their behavior.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">For example, a woman whose boyfriend gets </span><a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/jealousy" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Jealousy">jealous</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> every time she goes out without him may stop something as enjoyable to her as going out with her girlfriends, because "it's just not worth the fight." Or a man who loved a certain piece of furniture may throw it out at the insistence of his girlfriend. Balance and compromise are necessary in a couple's partnership, but dominating another person can be a dangerous course for an intimate relationship.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">It's important to note that it's not just the one who's yelling who controls the situation, but the one who cries or manipulates to entice guilt can be equally destructive to a relationship. </span><a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/passive-aggression" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-color: rgb(153, 153, 153); border-bottom-style: dashed; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;" title="Psychology Today looks at Passive-Aggression">Passive aggressive</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"> or just plain aggressive, these traits are highly destructive to a </span><a class="ext" href="http://www.psychalive.org/2009/06/love/" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;" target="_blank">healthy union</a><span class="ext" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: url(http://rsrc.psychologytoday.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/extlink/extlink.png); background-origin: initial; background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; padding-right: 12px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">When it comes to intimacy, very little is black and white. We may never be able to decipher whose fault it was or who started it. However, by noticing when actions and patterns of relating cross over from genuine care to </span><a class="ext" href="http://www.psychalive.org/2010/03/how-do-i-know-if-im-in-a-fantasy-bond/" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;" target="_blank">actions of a Fantasy Bond</a><span class="ext" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: url(http://rsrc.psychologytoday.com/sites/all/modules/contrib/extlink/extlink.png); background-origin: initial; background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px; padding-right: 12px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">, relationships can improve, and cliché as it may sound, true love can in fact prevail.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><b>WHAT IS REAL LOVE TOO YOU?</b></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><b><br /></b></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: Arial, helvetica, sans-serif;"><b><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201104/how-tell-the-difference-between-real-love-and-fantasy" target="_blank">Compassion Matters</a></b></span></span><br /><br />adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-8123515965866471282012-04-14T19:06:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.587-07:00Is "Just Friends" The Coward's Way Out?<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px;">By </span><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/experts/doctorbonnie" rel="author" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">Dr. Bonnie Weil</a><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrtU6nCp4PKZgbtkeqbXFcR84m4sXx9Uyoh5LxvDgTkI0gyrrJJKqLvT4q61LkuO3EB8fou7pmZfeOn8dHCXG5x29RRlesKDUfNmP3Le4EXIZZgIgy_aOjBIxkpop9JD9c4DcyyBsHHIq8/s1600/lean20kiss.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="299" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrtU6nCp4PKZgbtkeqbXFcR84m4sXx9Uyoh5LxvDgTkI0gyrrJJKqLvT4q61LkuO3EB8fou7pmZfeOn8dHCXG5x29RRlesKDUfNmP3Le4EXIZZgIgy_aOjBIxkpop9JD9c4DcyyBsHHIq8/s400/lean20kiss.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Georgia, 'New Century Schoolbook', 'Nimbus Roman No9 L', serif; font-size: 18px; font-style: italic; line-height: 22px;"><b>Over and over society seems to say that men and women can't be "just friends."</b></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Georgia, 'New Century Schoolbook', 'Nimbus Roman No9 L', serif; font-size: 18px; font-style: italic; line-height: 22px;"><b><br /></b></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Over and over society seems to say that men and women can't be "just friends." An article in the New York Times delineates these points (</span><a class="ext" href="http://nyti.ms/HuAc3q" rel="nofollow" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank" title="http://nyti.ms/HuAc3q">http://nyti.ms/HuAc3q</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">) from When Harry Met Sally, to more recent movies like Friends With Benefits. But sex and relationship therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil takes the idea of "just friends" and turns it on its head: what if this is the coward's way out?</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Dr. Bonnie explains that adding in sex and intimacy into a relationship is more tricky so some people opt to take the friends-only root. "That's not to say that every male/female friendship should end in marriage or that every such relationship harbors repressed romantic feelings. But often there is at least one member of the friendship who hopes for something more but doesn't act on it."</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Relationships are hard and intimacy is difficult and Dr. Bonnie believes many times people resign themselves to being in a friendship because the expectations are lower. "People don't have to be as vulnerable," she says, "so they don't get as hurt. They don't have to let their guard down which is what happens when sexual </span><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/super-tag/attraction" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">attraction</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"> enters into the equation." Not every male/female relationship has one person (or both people!) waiting for the opportunity to share their true feelings, but for those that do, it can be a rocky road.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Of course, there are good and bad ways to declare love! And for this reason Dr. Bonnie recommends using her Smart Heart Skills and Dialogue. Developed to help </span><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/super-tag/couples" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">couples</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"> navigate stormy waters, they can also facilitate open communication within a friendship. "Have this conversation with the other person at a time and place where you can accurately and honestly explain how you feel," advises Dr. Bonnie. "Each person should know that it is a safe place to be open and honest without fear of repercussion."</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Friendship is much less risky - but so much of experiencing life is about risk. "Yes," admits Dr. Bonnie, "it's risky to tell someone how you feel especially if you're worried you might ruin the friendship. But isn't it just a different kind of risk to keep those feelings inside and not allow yourself the possibility of exploring a relationship?"</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Text ADULTERY to 82257 to find out from Dr Bonnie if adultery or affairs may be looming in your relationship!</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Interested in a few </span><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/super-tag/dating" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">dating</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"> tips from internationally acclaimed relationship therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil? Text DATINGTIPS to 82257 to receive Tips and Updates from Dr. Bonnie!</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil's best-selling book, Adultery the Forgivable Sin is being re-released under a new distributor and making its appearance available in eBook format and print on Amazon.com (</span><a class="ext" href="http://www.amazon.com/Adultery-Forgivable-Bonnie-Eaker-Weil/dp/1587768151/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1321019076&sr=8-1" rel="nofollow" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank" title="http://www.amazon.com/Adultery-Forgivable-Bonnie-Eaker-Weil/dp/1587768151/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1321019076&sr=8-1">http://www.amazon.com/Adultery-Forgivable-Bonnie-Eaker-Weil/dp/158776815...</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">). Adultery the Forgivable Sin was also made into a Lifetime Original Movie starring Kate Jackson.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, is also author of the 2010 New York Times Reader’s Choice Award-winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD. Dr. Bonnie is a marriage counselor treating </span><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/super-tag/couples" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">couples</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">, singles, and step families. She works with those considering </span><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/category/33361" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">breaking up</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">As a marriage and family therapist, Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with intimacy, communication, and connection tools, and counsels families and children.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Named the Best Local New York Therapist by the US Commerce Association two years in a row (2011 and 2012) and known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of other books like Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Making Money Sexy.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Dr. Bonnie was named by Psychology Today and NY Magazine as one of America's Best Therapists and is presently featured and available now on the Discovery Health/</span><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/celeb-love/oprah-winfrey" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">Oprah Winfrey</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"> Network documentary titled "Unfaithful" (</span><a class="ext" href="http://bit.ly/GSP0KB" rel="nofollow" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank" title="http://bit.ly/GSP0KB">http://bit.ly/GSP0KB</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">) and A&E on addictions. The San Francisco Chronicle, which interviews Dr. Bonnie regularly, voted her one of their love experts.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Also find her on Good Morning America, on the Today Show's three-day series on infidelity, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, and a four day series on Fox TV regarding </span><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/super-tag/dating" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">dating</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN; and is often featured in USA Today and the New York Times. Visit Dr. Bonnie at </span><a class="ext" href="http://www.doctorbonnie.com/" rel="nofollow" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank" title="http://www.DoctorBonnie.com">http://www.DoctorBonnie.com</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; line-height: 21px;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif;"><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-bonnie-weil/just-friends-cowards-way-out" target="_blank">Is "Just Friends" The Coward's Way Out?</a></span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-26577207170274842442012-04-14T18:57:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.683-07:00Is It Time To Spring Clean Your Life?By Kim Olver<br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiXyNPi2IbB-BoS9L2C78n5HzpSv2ym5K31cecuEzn5XTm2-xIfflGo0ZFlV8ALWXEfKDe3M5fSwEnbMsHErOAPzS-LbjsWghzlIHv3PZreEI5cQzDwUTFF0sxhyphenhyphenOaFRE59YRE63pq3_-zj/s1600/spring_clean.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiXyNPi2IbB-BoS9L2C78n5HzpSv2ym5K31cecuEzn5XTm2-xIfflGo0ZFlV8ALWXEfKDe3M5fSwEnbMsHErOAPzS-LbjsWghzlIHv3PZreEI5cQzDwUTFF0sxhyphenhyphenOaFRE59YRE63pq3_-zj/s1600/spring_clean.jpg" /></a></div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Georgia, 'New Century Schoolbook', 'Nimbus Roman No9 L', serif; font-size: 18px; font-style: italic; line-height: 22px;"><b>12 often neglected areas to assess to see if the old still serves you or you need something new!</b></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Georgia, 'New Century Schoolbook', 'Nimbus Roman No9 L', serif; font-size: 18px; font-style: italic; line-height: 22px;"><b><br /></b></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">In our fast-paced, throwaway society, it's easy to just throw something away because you've had it a while or you're just simply tired of it. When you spring clean your life, the question to ask yourself is whether or not each of these areas is serving you or if it's time for something new! Here are 12 areas to consider.</span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">1. <a href="http://www.yourtango.com/experts/kim-olver/relationships-mistrust-and-taxes-expert" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">Finances</a>:</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"> Review the financial aspects of your life. Are you where you want to be? Do you have habits that support or sabotage what you want? What are you already doing well? What would you like to do even better? What needs polishing, cleaning, laundering or fixing? What do you need to throw out to make room for the new? </span><a class="callout-feature" href="http://www.yourtango.com/experts/kim-olver/relationships-mistrust-and-taxes-expert" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">Will Money Ruin Your Relationship?</a><br /><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">2. <a class="ext" href="http://www.therelationshipcenter.biz/relationships-at-home/secrets-of-happy-couples/" rel="nofollow" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank">Relationships</a>:</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"> Sometimes when we do a careful review of our relationships, we find ourselves connected to people who really don't nurture us, but instead drain us. Can you eliminate those people from your life or at least greatly diminish the amount of time you spend with them? Do you have the strong, healthy support network you want to help you be successful? Are you investing the kind of time in your relationships you want? Do you get a good return on your investment? What are you already doing well in your relationships? What, if anything, would you like to do even better? </span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">3. Your Knowledge Base</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">: What are your learning goals for the year? Are you setting goals to learn about things that will help you in your life or are you trying to learn things that might be better handled by someone else operating in their expertise? What are your strengths in knowledge? Where are your gaps? What do you need to throw out to make room for the new?</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">4. <a class="ext" href="http://www.therelationshipcenter.biz/relationship-with-self/weight-loss-from-the-insideout/" rel="nofollow" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank">Health:</a></strong><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> </span></strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Good health is a stated priority for many, but often our behavior doesn't add up. Are you as healthy as you'd like to be? What habits do you have that are helping in the health department? What habits might need to be abandoned or changed in order to get the results you want? </span><a class="callout-video" href="http://www.yourtango.com/2012147190/health-help-what-does-eating-well-really-mean-video" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">Health Help: What Does 'Eating Well' Really Mean?</a><br /><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">5. Your Beliefs/Faith</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">: Our beliefs about things really dictate the actions we take. Sometimes our beliefs serve us and sometimes they don't. It's time to look in your belief closet and determine which ones should stay, which ones can be packed up for the Good Will and which need to be thrown away. Keep the ones that help you, adjust the ones that need adjusting and toss out the ones that get in your way.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">6. Service to Others</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">: We are all put here on this Earth to be of service to others. How are you fulfilling your mission? Are you pleased with your level of service to others? What are you doing well? What would you like to improve? You may want to dust off some old behavior or create new ones. </span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">7. Service to Self</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">: If you are excelling in your service to others, you may be neglecting you service to self or vice versa. In your spring cleaning, you are basically looking for balance. Should you focus on one area to the exclusion of others, you will have "messes" popping up all over the place. What are you doing well to take care of yourself? What new can you add to do it even better?</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">8. <a class="ext" href="http://www.therelationshipcenter.biz/relationship-with-self/insideout-thinking/" rel="nofollow" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank">Thoughts</a></strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">: If you are alive, your brain is functioning and talking to you all day long. Sometimes our thoughts are healthy and help us, but many times, they are limiting what we are able to accomplish. Take the time to be mindful by bringing your thoughts to your conscious awareness. Stop sweeping them under the rug and throw away the garbage, while strengthening the thoughts that strengthen you.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">9. Behaviors</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">: Behaviors mainly refer to the activities in which we engage. Are there things you do that waste your precious time? Are there behaviors you have that sabotage the things you really want by doing what "feels good" in the moment? (This coming from me who just ate a piece of decadent chocolate cake!) It's time to spring clean your habits. Which ones help you? Keep those. Identify the ones that don't and replace them with something new and improved.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">10. Your Stories/Perceptions</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">: We make up stories all the time, mainly about other people and their motivations. We have no idea what's in other people's minds, but we regularly tell ourselves stories about it. We want closure or a complete picture so we fill in the blanks. We think people are mad at us, don't like us, think we're unattractive, etc. without any evidence to support it.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">I say, "If you are going to make up stories, at least make up ones that help you feel better, instead of worse." Check the stories you tell yourself and see if you can replace the hurtful ones with kinder ones. Your mental life will be much cleaner if you do.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">11. Your Values</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">: Most of us developed our value system early through the process of acculturation that began the moment our parents brought us home from the hospital. The process continues in our educational and religious institutions and our exposure to our communities and the media. We don't even take the time to assess whether or not our values are serving us because they don't feel like choices — they often feel like unequivocal truth. Now is the time to closely examine those values you hold dear and ask yourself if they are</span><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> really</em><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"> true or just an opinion.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">If they are just an opinion, (and they are), then you can let go of the need to get everyone to see the "truth" in your values and simply let them be what they are...your opinion. This one effort at spring cleaning will reap huge rewards as you allow others to have their own junk in their junk drawer, just as you have junk in yours. They are treasures to each of you and you wouldn't think of censoring what someone else should or shouldn't have in their junk drawer.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">12. <a class="ext" href="http://www.therelationshipcenter.biz/relationship-with-self/goal-attainment-2/" rel="nofollow" style="-webkit-transition-delay: initial; -webkit-transition-duration: 0.3s; -webkit-transition-property: all; -webkit-transition-timing-function: ease; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #ae0d55; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 1px; padding-left: 1px; padding-right: 1px; padding-top: 1px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank">Your Goals</a></strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">: Finally, I want you to spring clean your goals. Yes, that's right. Did you ever set a goal and stubbornly cling to accomplishing it, long after it lost its meaning to you? Sometimes situations change and certain goals no longer make sense in our present circumstances. Take the time to examine your goals to see which ones you want to keep, which need polishing and which can be packed up and let go.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">Follow this spring cleaning procedures in these dozen areas and you will be lighter, more expansive and better focused to move through your summer, fall and winter seasons. Think of it as a tune up to get your life tweaked so you can be in balance and aligned with the things that are truly important in your life.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; line-height: 21px;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif;"><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/experts/kim-olver/it-time-spring-clean-your-life-expert" target="_blank">Is It Time To Spring Clean Your Life?</a></span></span>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-36502714315602278202012-04-14T18:49:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.778-07:00April showers are here, and what better way to make the best of it than by feasting our eyes on some hot guys kissing in the rain? From Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner to Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams, and some surprises in between, check out the steamiest make-out sessions in the wet weather in this fun PopSugarTV special! Plus, if you're a fan of this video, don't miss Hot Guys Saying I Love You. So, which kiss is your favorite?<script src="http://player.popsugar.com/player.js?embedCode=RuZ2ZnNDq4KaOqEy1PHWkPHhf6r1aUxL&wmode=transparent&width=550&height=310"></script>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-77313178907292337082012-04-13T10:44:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.792-07:00“When Me And My Boyfriend Broke Up, I Messed Around With His Best Friend”<br /><div class="by-author" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; float: left; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 1; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 3px; margin-right: 8px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 8px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="sep" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">by</span> <span class="author-name vcard" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><a href="http://hellobeautiful.com/author/ioneterrance/" rel="author" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgb(212, 212, 212); color: #4a1c45; text-decoration: none;" title="Posts by Terrance Dean">Terrance Dean</a></span></div><div class="social-bar clearfix" id="socialbar-top" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; clear: both; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 20px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 20px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;"><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><img alt="black couple kissing" height="383" src="http://ionehellobeautiful.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/black-couple-kissing.jpg" width="640" /></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Almost two years ago I met this guy while I was waiting on line at the store. We’d never spoken before, but I knew of him in high school and he had a history of bouncing from girl to girl.</span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">He’s very good-looking, charming, ambitious, and somehow he finds a way to make extreme confidence look sexy (as Remy Ma would say, “He got a reason”). When he approached me I knew what to expect from a guy like him. I figured he had way too many options to feel the need to be a ONE woman kind of man, and we’re youngin’s in our 20’s, so I didn’t expect a wedding ring. After a six month relationship I was in prior to, I just wanted to have some fun. No-strings attached, exactly what his type wants surprise, surprise.</span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Four months into our “relationship,” he decides that HE wants a commitment, and I’m reluctant at first, but gradually I warm up to the idea—It’s not as if I was sleeping with anyone else, he just didn’t know that— and our relationship turns serious.</span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">—-> Enter stage left: HIS CRAZY ASS EX!! And by ex I mean ex-plaything. They were never in a committed relationship and she couldn’t care less about me until she realized me and homeboy was getting serious. She schemed and manipulated and stirred the pot in every way she could, and he ended up cheating on me with her one night after we got into a huge fight about me, “not caring” (I can’t win with this one. If I ask 21 questions and attack every floosy on his Facebook flirting then I’m an angry-nagging black woman, but if I don’t get jealous and I trust the guy completely then it means I don’t give a -ish. WTF?!)</span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">I didn’t find out about it until months later, but when I did I heard it from his best friend’s ex-girlfriend. She told me this right before letting me in on the fact that my now ex-boyfriend’s best friend– the one who always went out of his way to tease and clown me, had feelings for me, to the extent that she ended their relationship. The whole night was a soap opera in the making.</span> </div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Now I’m sure you know exactly where this is going. I was upset and hurt when I found out, and on the night in question, more than a little drunk after the news. After I broke up with him and stormed out of the party, his best friend took me home . Tears led to hugging, that led to kissing, and we didn’t actually sleep together — I stopped it before it got that far–but he’s his BEST FRIEND of over 10 years, since childhood, so in a way I might as well have.</span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">My ex has been begging me for another chance, and I love him. I really do. I understand that people mistakes — me with his BFF case & point—and, I’m willing to forgive him and work towards trusting him again, but I’m pretty sure he wont forgive me, or his best friend, for what almost happened. Even though we weren’t together at the time, I don’t think it matters.</span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">I’ve accepted the double standard for myself, but I don’t want to be “the bitch” that ruined their friendship forever. But, I also don’t want to spend the next few years in the same room as them two without addressing it. They both have feelings for me and even if I did have a moment with his best friend –if I’m being completely honest, we have developed a close friendship over the past two years— My EX is the one I want to be with. Should I keep my mouth shut and hope his friend never says a word or confess? Is admitting a kiss really worth ruining two relationships permanently? Do you think my ex could get past it with either of us? – </span><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Ms. Damned If I Do Or Don’t</em></strong></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></em></strong></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><a href="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" target="_blank">Read more:</a></em></strong></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></div><div addthis:url="http://hellobeautiful.com/2509244/when-me-and-my-boyfriend-broke-up-i-messed-around-with-his-best-friend/" addthis:via="hellobeautiful" class="addthis_toolbox addthis_default_style" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></div></div>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-79269317616924692902012-04-13T10:40:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.808-07:00Morning After: Follow Through Or Flee?<span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">It’s 8am and in addition to having the hangover from hell, you need to make some quick decisions. You see all of your things in a corner: you can either make a quick getaway and let him wake up alone, or you can make some pancakes and surprise him with breakfast in bed. How do you decide what the next move is without giving the wrong signals?</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><img alt="black-couple-bed" height="382" src="http://ionehellobeautiful.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/black-couple-bed.jpg" width="640" /><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Let’s say you want out… now: Leaving in a hurry could be a really bad decision</b></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><b>.</b> Unless the night was a COMPLETE mistake, you should probably give him a heads up. What if you try to make a quick getaway and pull a Cinderella by leaving something behind that could lead him to you? Even if this isn’t someone that you ever want to see again, let him know. You don’t want him to think you’re interested and continue to contact you until you have to block his number. Pull the “late for a meeting” excuse and jet. The easiest way to avoid future contact without sounding completely rude is by avoiding giving out your contact information.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><a href="http://hellobeautiful.com/hellobeautiful-original/nehamittal/is-long-distance-the-wrong-distance/" rel="bookmark" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgb(212, 212, 212); color: #4a1c45; text-decoration: none;" title="Is Long Distance The Wrong Distance?"><b>Is Long Distance The Wrong Distance?</b></a></span></em><br /><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></em><br /><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>You had fun? Keep it going without coming off as clingy: </b></span><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">If this is someone that you like and want to see again, you want to let him know without seeming too serious too fast. Throw on his dress shirt and get both of you some coffee. Have a small breakfast together and leave. Don’t stay for too long, and he will probably want to get dinner with you later that night. This is when you might want to pull a Cinderella. If you’re feeling adventurous, leave behind a little something (make up, scarf) that he will hold onto until you see each other again.</span></em><br /><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></em><br /><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Unsure? Need some more time?</b> </strong><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Give yourself a few days so that you don’t keep doing the same thing then regretting it. Make a plan for later in the week and see how you feel until then. Use that time to try to figure out his deal and decide if it’s something that you want to pursue. Just remember that one drunken night doesn’t make you obligated to see him again- It’s important to do what you want to.</span></em><br /><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></em><br /><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgb(212, 212, 212); color: #4a1c45; text-decoration: none;"><a href="http://hellobeautiful.com/hellobeautiful-original/telishang/3-important-conversations-to-have-before-committing/" rel="bookmark" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgb(212, 212, 212); color: #4a1c45; text-decoration: none;" title="3 Important Conversations To Have Before Committing To A Relationship">3 Important Conversations To Have Before Committing To A Relationship</a></b></span></em></em><br /><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></span></em></em><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 21px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif;"><a href="http://hellobeautiful.com/1098205/morning-after-follow-through-or-flee/" target="_blank">Morning After: Follow Through Or Flee?</a></span></span></span></span><br /><em style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></em><br /><br />adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-75692985340084768102012-04-13T10:36:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:01.902-07:00“I Met Him Online, Gave Him My Number, But He Hasn’t Given Me His & He Wants Me To Visit Him”<span class="sep" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; 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color: #4a1c45; text-decoration: none;" title="Posts by Terrance Dean">Terrance Dean</a></span><br /><br /><img alt="black woman on computer" height="380" src="http://ionehellobeautiful.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/black-woman-on-computer.jpg" width="640" /><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">I have been on this dating/flirt website for about two years now. I get on there every so often and whenever I’m bored. That’s it. But, one day I got on there and was browsing through the different guys pictures and profiles and I came across this one sexy guy’s pictures and profile. I just had to get to know more about him because he was just that sexy to me.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">We started sending each other messages back and forth and he told me some things about him, and I told him some basic things about me. I didn’t take him serious at first. It was just flirting, but then as we started sending each other more messages I was very eager to talk to him off of the site. So, I suggested we should exchange numbers. I sent him my number to let him know I am definitely interested in him and that I want to get to know more about him. His response was like, “I got you mami.” I asked why you can’t send me your number and he never actually gave me a direct response or an answer. So, I left it alone and didn’t even think nothing of it, and we just kept sending messages back and forth.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">So, a year passed and we were still sending each other messages. At this point I’m still not really taking with him too serious. This year makes it two years and we still are sending each other messages. Long story short, we started talking about him wanting me to come see him and how he wants to see me in person, and I was like I would love to come see him and all but he hasn’t even given me his number yet, and never gave me a direct answer on why he couldn’t send me his number. So, I said to him that I want to be able to hear his voice instead of us keep sending each other messages because now I’m really interested in him even more. So, I sent him my number for the second time and then I was waiting for him to send me his number, but, yet again his response was once again, “I got you mami.”</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">At this point my female intuition is in full force and I’m thinking the obvious, either he has a woman and they stay together, or he’s married. At this point that’s a red flag to me and he is not being real with me and not being honest with me, which I didn’t want to think the obvious of those options. Moral of the story is that I really want to go and visit him me and a few friends this summer, but the main issue/problem remains is that I do not have his number. I’ve told him that I’m not coming unless he produces/sends me his number, and he was like he was going to give me his number when I get ready to come.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Should I hold him to his word on that? I just want to be able to give him the benefit of the doubt and not assume the obvious. If I decide not to go, then I feel that I won’t get to at least find out in person if I can get my questions answered honestly. What is your honest opinion/advice on this issue/problem? Should I just leave the situation alone and delete my profile? What are the exact questions I should be asking him? – </span><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Undecided and Confused</em></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></em></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Dear </span><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Ms. Undecided and Confused</em></strong><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">,</span></em></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></em></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">Hold up, let me grab my big bag of cheddar cheese popcorn and turn on the television. I want to be ready when the breaking news graphics comes across my television for the upcoming news….One moment…..One moment….One moment….Okay, I’m ready.</span></em></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;"><br /></span></em></strong><br /><strong style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3d3d3d; font-family: Georgia, Cambria, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 14px; 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border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; 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padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">The first orgasm I ever had with a guy was in the shower with my college boyfriend, who was just using his hands. I was so shocked it worked that I couldn’t stop laughing and saying, “Oh, my God, I came!” (He must have suddenly wondered about my previous theatrics in bed.) But that was the first and last time a hand job ever worked for me, in the shower or out of it. Later on I found I could only get off from oral, and sometime later it was only straight-up screwing that worked. </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">Yes, the female orgasm can be a tricky little beast, but make no mistake: When we come, it’s freaking amazing. It’s white lights and stars, an ecstatic, almost out-of-body experience. And if you’re the one who manages to get us there, we’ll be absolute putty in your hands. That’s why we’re giving you a sneak peek into the nitty-gritty details of lady orgasms—the moves that make our toes curl and our insides shudder—so that you’ll never go to bed unprepared.</span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></strong></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></strong></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></strong></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></strong></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> </strong></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-weight: normal; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></strong></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>It’s Like…Whoa</b></span><br style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;" /><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">Just like we all take different routes to the big O, every woman experiences it a little bit differently. The one commonality? Awesomeness. Susie,* a 28-year-old event planner, says her orgasms are “better than any drug in the world. For me it’s like a wave of warmth that starts in my toes, then climbs over the rest of my body until I’m completely hot and shaking. I’ll feel like my genitals are trembling and I’m almost on fire.” </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">For some girls it’s not the orgasm itself but the moments immediately following that are the peak of ecstasy. “The best part for me is afterward, when I feel like I have this aura around me, this bright, warm glow of orgasm, and I feel so damn happy,” says Corinne, a 30-year-old physical therapist. “Sometimes I even want to cry.” And let’s not forget the lucky girl who can actually come over and over—the multiple orgasmer. “When I finish coming, I typically have about 30 seconds of downtime before the second wave begins,” says Mackenzie, a 26-year-old sales assistant, who feels a sensation of heat similar to that described by Susie when she comes. “Then the rush of blood and that kind of low-level electricity begin again and build to even more intensity the second time around. Multiple orgasms are without a doubt the best part of being a woman.”</span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b> </b></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b><br /></b></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>The Road to O-Town, Part I</b></span><br style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;" /><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">So what does it take to bring a girl to these body-shaking, earth-quaking highs? The good news is, for some women intercourse does the job…though maybe not as easily as it does for you. Since our bodies don’t come with an outward appendage that’s like a neon sign saying touch this, it can be a challenge to find the right spot to hit. And the vagina, by the way, usually isn’t it. </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">Most girls report that no matter the position they’re in for sex, simultaneous clitoral stimulation is key. During missionary sex, this can be a simple matter of lining your hips up with hers. “I can only come when the guy’s on top,” says Marni, a 33-year-old grad student. “I basically need his head to be past mine and our torsos in constant contact, so that with every thrust he’s pushing against my clit. I’ll grind my hips up into his, and after a few minutes, boom, I’m there.” A lot of girls prefer to be on top so they can control the pace, pressure, and location of all that friction. Erica, a 27-year-old nanny, says she needs to be straddling her guy, pelvis to pelvis, to come: “He feels amazing inside me, but just sliding in and out won’t work. My clit needs to rub against him at the same time.” </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">There are those special few women who don’t seem to need quite that much clitoral attention to come, such as 31-year-old Sabine, whose orgasm trigger is doggie-style sex. “I'm not sure what it is, but when I’m getting it from behind, I just lose control,” she says. “Sometimes the guy will reach around for my clit, but I’d rather have him fondle my nipples or put his fingers in my mouth for me to bite down on. Maybe I’m weird, but that gets me off, hard.”</span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b> </b></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b><br /></b></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>The Road to O-Town, Part II</b></span><br style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;" /><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">For those who need maximum stimulation, there’s one kind of sex that works like a charm: oral. “It’s failproof,” says Jenni, 25, a teacher. “I’ve never not gotten off from oral sex. Never.” Katie, a 26-year-old Web editor, concurs, though she prefers it with a couple of extra bells and whistles. “I love when a guy puts his fingers inside me while he’s licking me,” she says. “If he tickles my G-spot, it’s an incredible sensation. My eyes will roll back, and I’ll start moaning.” If she’s into what you’re doing, she’ll keep her hands on your head or shoulders and start rocking her hips—but pay attention to her movements. “The only thing that hinders me sometimes with oral is too much pressure,” says Jeanine, a 28-year-old pharmaceutical sales rep. “I might wiggle away to hint that I want his tongue flicking me rather than pushing. But if he goes lightly and firmly in the same pattern, over and over, I’m gone in two minutes.” </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">Don’t underestimate the power of hands, either—yours or hers. Suzanne, a 27-year-old PR specialist, says she likes to be on top, but with a catch. “I have to touch myself while I’m on top in order to get off,” she says. “And I like nipple stimulation, too. So I’ll have one hand on my clit, and I’ll lick my fingers on the other and rub them against my tits.” In fact, this, um, multipronged approach is the orgasm formula for lots of girls. “I prefer a guy to use his tongue on my breasts, flicking it against my nipples while his hand rubs my clit,” says Isabel, 32, a real estate agent. “And what really pushes me over the edge—but I’ll allow it only if I’m really comfortable with someone—is, at the same time, a finger on my back door. Not in it, just touching it.”</span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">The fastest ticket to the big O for many women is the vibrator—particularly when they incorporate it into sex with you. “I always used mine with my ex,” says Lauren, 23, a marketing intern. “He was awesome in bed, really attentive; I just had a hard time finishing. He loved it because it guaranteed that I came, too, so he didn’t have to feel guilty. He liked to use it on me and watch me use it on myself.” Most women are shy about bringing a vibe into the bedroom, because they don’t want you to feel threatened. But as Jackie, a 25-year-old sales assistant, explains, “It’s a double whammy! It feels so amazing to have his dick and the vibration at the same time.” </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b> </b></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b><br /></b></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Was it Good for Her?</b></span><br style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;" /><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">There are some physical things that happen to all women when they orgasm (contractions of the vaginal walls being the main one). But there are plenty of other ways to tell when you’ve done right by her. “My guy always knows when I’ve had a real, intense orgasm because I fall right asleep afterward,” says Susie. “They really wipe you out!” </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">A lot of women also can’t help but, well, freak out when they’re climaxing—and not with the squeaky monkey noises you might hear from the ladies of porn; we’re talking filthy, almost Tourette’s-like outbursts. “I scream. I mean, things come out of my mouth that are insanely dirty and nasty,” says Corinne. “¿‘Fuck me harder! Fuck my pussy! Oh, my God, don’t stop, fuck me, fuck me, fuck me!’ That’s pretty much what I say every time.” Sarah, a 23-year-old dance instructor, says she also gets major potty mouth when she’s having an orgasm: “I get louder and louder and tell my boyfriend to fuck me as hard as he can so I can come all over his cock. That sets him off, too, so we can even come together sometimes.” Of course, moaning and gasping are good indicators, too. “I can hardly breathe when I’m coming,” says Anna, a 29-year-old graphic designer. “I gasp and gasp and sometimes even kind of unintentionally hold my breath until I’m finished and can heave that big sigh of relief.”</span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"> </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">However we get there, whatever works for us, every woman loves the intense pleasure of an orgasm so much that most of us refuse to fake it once we’ve had one. After all, why do ourselves a disservice by not getting the real deal? So if you see these signs, give yourself a pat on the back: You’ve just given her the ride of her life. </span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="field-items" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; float: left; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: -webkit-auto; vertical-align: baseline;"><a href="http://www.maxim.com/sex-relationships/ultimate-orgasm-guide" style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 23px;" target="_blank">Ultimate Orgasm Guide</a></div></div><br /><br /><div class="field-items" style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; display: inline; float: left; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><div class="field-item even" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; display: inline; font-size: 15px; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></div></div>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-77334851697871331422012-04-13T10:09:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:02.110-07:00The Superhot Secrets of Lesbian SexBy: Gillian Telling<br /><br /> <b>What really happens when girls get it on and how you can learn from it.</b>I know a lot of lesbians. Not the way you might be hoping, where we’re in a pool doing something naughty. I just happen to be friends with them. How do these friendships impact you? Think of them as an educational tool far more accurate than the “lesbian” porn on the Internet, full of straight girls fake-orgasming after 45 seconds. Fact is, most men have the wrong idea when it comes to how two women have sex. So I got the scoop on how girls really turn each other on—and how you can bring their skills into your bedroom, too.<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRciZfbuHAi_Hn74IvbbrR8_gjqByzUE5U3wwQnhLGk5Pr36A7WNONeEBEOctqQ753MdAMSOBaSAnfgJkieKLYmiK0icAMGSGqSmtzhKkSFp388o-azgDvVN2fZnV56j0ZxcdyamHw5AvA/s1600/lesbian_sex_article.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRciZfbuHAi_Hn74IvbbrR8_gjqByzUE5U3wwQnhLGk5Pr36A7WNONeEBEOctqQ753MdAMSOBaSAnfgJkieKLYmiK0icAMGSGqSmtzhKkSFp388o-azgDvVN2fZnV56j0ZxcdyamHw5AvA/s640/lesbian_sex_article.jpg" width="512" /></a></div><b>What's the Rub?</b>Before we get to the juicy stuff, let’s bust a myth. “The biggest misconception about lesbians is that we ‘scissor’ each other,” says Jane,* a 28-year-old photographer, “heads at opposite ends, legs in a V, vaginas smooshing together. How would that feel good?” According to Jane, the position is almost physically impossible and rarely attempted, except by Mrs. Garrison on South Park.<br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">What definitely does happen is rubbing, or the proverbial “dry hump.” In fact, it’s a fundamental of lesbian sex. “I do intertwine my legs with my girlfriend’s,” Jane says, “but with our heads at the same end of the bed. One of us will be on top so that we can be chest to chest and able to kiss and touch, but we’ll position ourselves for maximum stimulation. She loves when I rock my pubic bone against her clit until she comes.” Adds her girlfriend, Andy: “We ride each other missionary, just like you’d do with a guy. Basically, girls can grind up against anything and get off—a knee, a hand, whatever.”</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">The women were quick to add that a little dry humping, even when they come, does not necessarily mean two girls have done it. If their panties stay on, most agreed, things haven’t gotten intimate enough to be considered full-on sex—a rule that junior high school kids have been using to great effect for years.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: large; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>She Could Go All the Way</b></span></span><br style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">So what does count as sex for lesbians? For many it’s all about a trip downtown. “A girl going down on me is by far the most intense sexual encounter,” says Anita, 33. “My girlfriend and I waited a long time because it’s such a big deal. By the time she finally put her tongue on me, I wanted it so bad I came almost instantly.”</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">Maybe part of the reason oral sex is so important to lesbians is that it’s where they excel. “I’ve never had a girl be bad at oral,” says Kristen, a 32-year-old artist. “I guess it’s instinctual, because we’re so familiar with how the female body works.” The keys, she says, are taking your time, reading her reactions, and making sure everything’s really wet. “And when I’m touching a girl’s clitoris with my tongue,” Kristen says, “it’s soft and gentle but with just enough pressure to get her off. Some girls will even grind up into me. Then they’re more in control, and I just have to maintain consistent pressure. It’s the most satisfying way to get someone off.”</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">While the emphasis is always on the clit, penetration is still a factor in lesbian sex—though it’s used more sparingly than when girls and boys get together. “I love being fingered,” says Alison, 30, who’s been with guys and girls, “but not if I haven’t been properly kissed and licked first. And that’s what all my female partners are best at. Dryness is the root of all evil—though that’s true for straight sex as much as lesbian sex.”</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: large; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Toy Soldiers</b></span></span><br style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">Naturally, any mention of penetration brings up the question of toys in the bedroom. Are strap-ons and motorized thingamajigs a staple of lesbian sex? As with you and your partners, seems it depends on the woman and the mood. “Every lesbian owns a dildo,” says Angela, a 26-year-old student. “But most of them only break out the toys here and there to spice things up.” Julie, a 30-year-old marketing manager, shares this philosophy, using porn, handcuffs, and ticklers with her partners—but not all the time, which helps to make the encounters memorable. “I wasn’t into toys until my last girlfriend brought a little vibrator into the bedroom,” she says. “She just touched it against my butt while going down on me, and I was in heaven. I came harder than I ever had. That’s when I decided to pick up some things that could take sex to a different level on those nights when I really want to get dirty.”</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">Vibrators, interestingly, were a more controversial topic among the girls—and maybe you can relate. “We consider ourselves experts at clitoral stimulation,” says Angela. “So it’s almost insulting if you’re doing your thing to a girl and she decides to whip one out. But everyone needs different things to get off.” Case in point: One woman’s Big O trigger is using a vibe while being fucked from behind with a strap-on. “That’s my favorite thing to do with my girlfriend when we’re getting crazy,” she says, “because I can’t come from penetration alone. I need that clit action.”</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">Just as you might feel insecure about a girl taking out a vibrator during sex, some girls feel threatened when their partners introduce anything penis-like. “There are a lot of emotions in sex between girls,” says Kelly, 29, a personal trainer. “We’re talking about two women. It can get annoyingly sensitive, especially if one has an arsenal of rubber penises and Hitachi magic wands.” Of course, since there are two girls involved, they’re more than happy to have a big talk about it right then and there.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: large; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Get In On the Action</b></span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: large; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">So you’re not a chick with innate, intimate knowledge of the female body. That doesn’t mean you can’t adapt this info to your own relationships. And these women are happy to be your secret advisers. Their number one tip—not a surprise: It’s all about foreplay. “We run all the bases leading up to the Big O,” says Amy, a 28-year-old therapist. “No girl-on-girl action jumps straight to sex. We kiss, touch, and rub each other for a while. But the payoff is worth it. When my girlfriend gives me a shaking, full-body orgasm, I’m all about returning the favor.”</span> </span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: large; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: large; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">A huge focus of all this pre-orgasm work should be the kiss. Advises Marty, a 31-year-old banker, “It’s the first step in turning a woman on. The longer I go with my tongue in my girlfriend’s mouth, on her cheeks, nibbling her, teasing her, the more revved she gets. And I never just tweak a nipple and move on down to the good stuff. My breasts are so full of nerve endings that sometimes I can come just from someone licking them.”</span></span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: large; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: large; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">If you remember nothing else, says Alison, “Make sure she is wet, wet, wet. If she isn’t, don’t assume she’s not turned on. For some girls it’s not easy getting lubed up—those are the ones who need your mouth to really get them going.” Lastly, even if it’s a fantasy of yours, don’t assume all lesbians want to have sex with your girlfriend. “We can tell when the straight ones walk into a room,” says Marty. “But if your lady wants to hop the fence for a night, there are always other straight girls there she can go home with.” Just like in the lesbian porn online.</span></span></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #3c3c3c; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font: inherit; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: large; font: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"></span></span><br /><h1 class="title" id="page-title" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: 'Proxima Nova'; font: inherit; line-height: 1em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><a href="http://www.maxim.com/sex-relationships/the-superhot-secrets-of-lesbian-sex" target="_blank">The Superhot Secrets of Lesbian Sex</a></h1>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-67081361534089364352012-04-12T20:50:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:02.209-07:00Trying to Create the Frankenstein Monster of Love<span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-align: left;">by </span><a href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/author/dennishong/" rel="author" style="color: #78061d; font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;" title="Posts by Dennis Hong">Dennis Hong</a><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgfEHtI7qBLylgGt21Fe_kJHqLPQuXjPqjwNAMpXUX2uYKslnqZkMMJthJO9N2sT1BYJ5EUcXSAe8D157ddF3hTgPz5CFg44SXadMkE4hWeF9VSdCU8tVH_HOZE8lApn4YshL1Flynz2JaO/s1600/elvis-frankenstein-150x150.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgfEHtI7qBLylgGt21Fe_kJHqLPQuXjPqjwNAMpXUX2uYKslnqZkMMJthJO9N2sT1BYJ5EUcXSAe8D157ddF3hTgPz5CFg44SXadMkE4hWeF9VSdCU8tVH_HOZE8lApn4YshL1Flynz2JaO/s400/elvis-frankenstein-150x150.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">A man comes across a genie who grants him any wish he wants. He thinks for a second and says, “okay, I want a woman who’s great in bed, a woman who can cook, and a woman who can clean.”</em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><br /></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">“Yes, master. And will there be anything else?”</em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><br /></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">“Yeah, and I don’t want any of them to find out about each other.”</em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><br /></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">When it comes to relationships, some people want it all. Well, here’s my story of a girl who had an unconventional strategy for getting it all….</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">Selma and I were friends for over ten years. During six of those, she was involved with an insanely jealous man. When she finally mustered up the courage to end the relationship, she rebounded herself onto a “</span><a class="st_tag internal_tag" href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/tag/boy-toy/" rel="tag" style="color: #78061d; font-style: normal; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;" title="Posts tagged with boy toy">boy toy</a><span style="font-style: normal;">,” as she liked to call him. Antonio was a purely physical relationship, and Pinocchio sex (that is, sex with no strings attached) was exactly what she needed at the time.</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">One night, months later, Selma and I were out with a group of friends. A few rounds of drunken flirting led to a bout of spontaneous kissing, and somehow, we ended up spending the night together….</span><img alt="Trying to Create the Frankenstein Monster of Love i am not a role model trans" src="http://www.musingsonlifeandlove.com/wp-includes/js/tinymce/plugins/wordpress/img/trans.gif" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-style: normal; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; max-width: 100%; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" title="i am not a role model Trying to Create the Frankenstein Monster of Love " /></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><br /></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">The next day, we agreed that this wasn’t just a random hook-up and that there was definitely romantic interest there. So, I asked her out on an official date. Admittedly, I wasn’t thrilled that she’d been sleeping with some random guy for months. But, this was all before I came into the picture, so I told myself it would be okay.</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">And so, we went on our very </span><a class="st_tag internal_tag" href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/tag/first-date/" rel="tag" style="color: #78061d; font-style: normal; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;" title="Posts tagged with first date">first date</a><span style="font-style: normal;">. Now, I can regale you with the tales of my charm and my wit. But suffice it to say, Selma gushed at the end of the night that this was the best date she’d ever been on. Of course, her relationship experience up to this point consisted of 1) an immature high school sweetheart, 2) insane jealous boyfriend, and 3) boy toy. As far as </span><a class="st_tag internal_tag" href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/tag/dating/" rel="tag" style="color: #78061d; font-style: normal; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;" title="Posts tagged with dating">dating</a><span style="font-style: normal;"> went, I didn’t exactly think it would take much to impress her. But, I allowed myself to bask in the satisfaction of having planned someone’s best date ever.</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">We talked on the phone several times over the next week, and life was all rainbows and fluffy clouds. Then, one evening….</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">She told me how she loved that I was romantic with her and made her laugh—always, in my experience, the preface to a heaping pile of dumpage. But—and here it came—she had shown a pattern of jumping from one guy to the next, so she wanted to slow things down and not do anything more than making out for a while.</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">I was okay with this, actually. (Phew, no heaping piles there.) But then, she said </span><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">this</em><span style="font-style: normal;">:</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">“I’m so glad you understand. I really am excited about us, and I really think this can go somewhere. But, just to let you know, I still want to see Antonio, too.”</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"> stood there in dumbfounded silence for a good thirty seconds.</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">“Let me get this straight. You want me to take you out on dates and be romantic with you and take it slow and not get too physical too quickly. BUT, in the meantime, you’re gonna keep sleeping with another guy?”</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">“It’s just sex. It doesn’t mean anything. YOU’RE the one I want to be with.”</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">“You know, I don’t know if I’m okay with this.”</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">“I don’t see the problem. Why can’t we take it slow and not mess things up between us?”</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">“YOU CAN’T TAKE IT SLOW WITH ME WHILE YOU’RE F***ING ANOTHER GUY AT THE SAME TIME!!!!”</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">The title of this article is more or less what I said next (minus the expletives). She just couldn’t see why I had such a problem with her plan. She even went as far as to accuse me of being “a guy just looking to get laid.” Oh yeah, that salt </span><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">really</em><span style="font-style: normal;"> tingles when the cut is still bleeding.</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">Finally, I coaxed the truth out of her. After days of “discussion,” during which time I firmly stood my ground and totally got back at her by withholding all “</span><a class="st_tag internal_tag" href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/tag/romance/" rel="tag" style="color: #78061d; font-style: normal; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;" title="Posts tagged with romance">romance</a><span style="font-style: normal;">” and “laughter” from her, I realized that she had feelings for Antonio. He was the one she actually wanted to be with. However, he simply wasn’t willing to give her anything more than </span><a class="st_tag internal_tag" href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/tag/casual-sex/" rel="tag" style="color: #78061d; font-style: normal; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;" title="Posts tagged with casual sex">casual sex</a><span style="font-style: normal;">. So, she convinced herself that </span><a class="st_tag internal_tag" href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/tag/casual-sex/" rel="tag" style="color: #78061d; font-style: normal; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; z-index: 100;" title="Posts tagged with casual sex">casual sex</a><span style="font-style: normal;"> was what she wanted, too. In the meantime, she sought out the romance and the affection from someone else. Guess who that lucky candidate was?</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">Needless to say, we stopped seeing each other after that. And, as anyone could’ve guessed, things ultimately fell apart with Antonio. She wanted more, and he was unwilling to give her more. In the end, she lost both the sex and the romance.</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">So, I hope the moral of this particular story is clear: You can wait and hold out for the one who has it “all.” Or you can accept the one who has “most” of it. Or you may even settle for one who has only “some” of it. As long as you’re happy, no one else has a right to judge.</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">But, if you want it all, “all” has to encompass one person. You can’t create your own Frankenstein monster of love from several different people, with some sex from this person, some romance from this person, some intelligent conversation from this person, and some laughter and fun from yet this other person. It all has to come from the same person. The payoff for holding out can be the person of your dreams. But the price you pay for holding out is patience.</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;">Selma didn’t have the patience. She wanted it “all.” Well, that just wasn’t acceptable. Especially for the guy who wasn’t getting “any.”</span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; 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padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><br /></em></em></em></em><br /><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif;"><i><a href="http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/" target="_blank">Trying to Create the Frankenstein Monster of Love</a></i></span></span></span></span></span><br /><em style="font-family: arial, verdana, tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; 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padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><br /></span></em></em></em>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-82688745513195818282012-04-12T20:28:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:02.310-07:00Woman Fakes Cancer To Win A Wedding<span style="background-color: white; color: #1a1a1a; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 16px; text-align: left;">By JIM FITZGERALD</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #1a1a1a; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 16px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7zNNp-6EDsX11ZaFoIPHqRcyjxpPWDw5DiD9IY-0DoQDtt0cd-OVHMbevkcHvhEqUrhbFS6ExHBs5PQM-u0RmeGjv4AOQdTDPh762XBEpB2ZZh6kPbpBWGgwGGdDFsSp3SaML9hy1BARw/s1600/images+(1).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="358" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7zNNp-6EDsX11ZaFoIPHqRcyjxpPWDw5DiD9IY-0DoQDtt0cd-OVHMbevkcHvhEqUrhbFS6ExHBs5PQM-u0RmeGjv4AOQdTDPh762XBEpB2ZZh6kPbpBWGgwGGdDFsSp3SaML9hy1BARw/s640/images+(1).jpg" width="640" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">WHITE PLAINS, N.Y. — Strangers donated the beautifully embroidered wedding dress, the two rings, the honeymoon time-share in Aruba. They acted quickly, too, because the bride was dying of cancer. Or so she said.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">The state attorney general's office announced Tuesday that Jessica Vega, 25, has been indicted on charges of fraud and grand larceny for getting her "dream wedding" by falsely claiming she was dying of leukemia.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">"By pretending to have a terminal illness, Vega inexcusably took advantage of the community's hearts and minds, and profited off of their generosity," said Attorney General Eric Schneiderman. "Our office will hold this individual accountable for fleecing the public through lies and deception."</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">Vega, formerly of Montgomery, N.Y., was arrested in Virginia on April 3, extradited to New York and arraigned Friday in Orange County Court in Goshen. She pleaded not guilty. A call to the Legal Aid firm that represented her was not immediately returned.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">Among the alleged victims listed in the indictment is the Nu-Cavu restaurant in Wallkill, where the bridal reception was held and wine and appetizers worth more than $1,000 were donated. Part-owner Carmela Vitolo-Gelsomine said, "We tried to do the best we could for her. We thought she was in a situation where she needed help."</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">Others listed as victims are the boutique that donated the wedding dress, and a woman who volunteered to do hair and makeup for the bride and seven bridesmaids.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">Schneiderman said that in 2010, Vega, then living in Montgomery, claimed she had just a few months to live and wanted a "dream wedding" to Michael O'Connell, father of her year-old daughter.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">Her cause spread quickly around the mid-Hudson region, helped by a story in the Times Herald Record. The newspaper said Vega showed a reporter what she said was a doctor's letter confirming the diagnosis.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">Vega also said she planned to leave letters to her daughter that the girl could open after the mother's death on such occasions as her prom or graduation.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">The community was "touched by her story," the attorney general said.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">Vega and O'Connell were married in May 2010. Four months later, O'Connell expressed suspicions to the newspaper, saying he believed the doctor's letter was fake. Vega said she hadn't lied.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">One of the charges in the indictment says Vega was in possession of a forged document.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">The couple divorced, but the Times Herald Record reported Tuesday that O'Connell said they had been living together again in Virginia and had a second child.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">"She's a good mom," he said. "I want my kids to have their mother back."</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;">If convicted of fraud or grand larceny, Vega could be sentenced 16 months to four years in prison on each of six counts.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; border-bottom-style: none; 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color: #1a1a1a; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 16px; text-align: left;"><br /></span>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-25442825343048158582012-04-12T20:22:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:02.410-07:00Woman Indicted For Lying About Cancer To Get Free WeddingBy <a class="url fn n" href="http://www.thefrisky.com/author/julie-gerstein/" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #0082fe; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 30px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" title="View all posts by Julie Gerstein">Julie Gerstein</a><br /><img src="http://static.thefrisky.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/12/92130709-400x300.jpg" /><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;">A couple of years ago, we told you about </span><a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/2010-09-09/womans-leukemia-lie-gets-her-a-free-wedding-and-a-divorce/" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #0082fe; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank">Jessica Vega</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;">, the New York woman who lied about having leukemia — to her own fiance even — in order to score a free wedding. Her husband, Michael O’Connell, felt that something about Vega’s claim of incurable cancer didn’t smell quite right, and ratted her out, filing for divorce just three months after their nuptials. Well, this week, Vega was finally indicted on charges of fraud and grand larceny for faking the whole thing.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;">“By pretending to have a terminal illness, Vega inexcusably took advantage of the community’s hearts and minds, and profited off of their generosity,” said Attorney General Eric Schneiderman. “Our office will hold this individual accountable for fleecing the public through lies and deception.”</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;">Her terminal cancer lie scored Vega a free bridal reception, free hair and makeup, and a donated wedding dress.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;">After divorcing in 2010, O’Connell and Vega reconciled and had a second child, because, said O’Connell, “She’s a good mom. I want my kids to have their mother back.” </span><em style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Mmmkay</em><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;">. She faces from 16 months to four years in prison for each of the six counts of fraud and grand larceny.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/tag/jessica-vega/" rel="tag" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #00519f; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline;">Jessica Vega</a><span style="background-color: white; 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border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #0082fe; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; text-transform: capitalize; vertical-align: baseline;">Wedding</a><br /><br /><a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/2012-04-12/woman-indicted-for-lying-about-cancer-to-get-free-wedding/#more-2066532" target="_blank">Woman Indicted For Lying About Cancer To Get Free Wedding</a><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-66821121536786599732012-04-12T20:19:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:02.507-07:00MY SO-CALLED LOVE LIFE: ANGELA CHASE ON SEX AND DATING<img src="http://media2.onsugar.com/files/2012/04/15/4/301/3019466/fc605a7ffd8d4f5f_060930061024_bqq1ggo369.xxxlarge_1.jpg" /><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Angela: "I mean, I think about it [sex] . . . all the time, but . . . "</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Brian: "Wait, you </span><i style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">think</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"> about it all the time?"</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Angela: "Brian! Yes! Shut up . . . guys don't have a monopoly on thinking about it."</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Brian: "They don't?"</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Angela: "No!"</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Angela: "You know, you are sick and demented. You skew everything in terms of sex."</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Brian: "Not everything!"</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">"They weren't the kind of kisses you could actually evaluate. They were more like . . . introductory kisses."</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">"There's this dividing line between girls who have had sex, and girls who haven't. And all of a sudden you realize you're looking at each other across it."</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><img src="http://media1.onsugar.com/files/2012/04/15/4/301/3019466/942c6a0cef5cd3b5_cLGatQO1Tqqcvj197OZ54Boko1_500.preview.jpg" /><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">"When I was 12, my mother gave me my sex talk. I'm not sure either of us has fully recovered."</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><br /><h1 class="post-title-small" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 15px; margin-bottom: 2px; margin-left: 2px; margin-right: 2px; margin-top: 2px; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.tressugar.com/My-So-Called-Life-Quotes-22638410?slide=9" target="_blank">My So-Called Life Quotes</a></h1><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-82973023921335975462012-04-12T20:15:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:02.603-07:00MY SO-CALLED LOVE LIFE: ANGELA CHASE ON SEX AND DATING<img src="http://media2.onsugar.com/files/2012/04/15/4/301/3019466/cover.xxxlarge/i/My-So-Called-Life-Quotes.jpg" /><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">by </span><span id="slide-author" style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><a href="http://www.tressugar.com/author/Tara%20Block" rel="author" style="color: #9b3d98; text-decoration: none;" title="View Profile.">Tara Block</a></span><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Today </span><a class="sugar_inline_link" href="http://www.popsugar.com/Claire-Danes" style="background-color: white; color: #9b3d98; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="Latest photos and news for Claire Danes">Claire Danes</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"> turns 33! While the birthday girl is all grown up these days as the star of </span><b style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Homeland</b><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">and wife to hot actor Hugh Dancy, we will always remember Claire as the angsty teen heroine of </span><b style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">My So-Called Life</b><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">, Angela Chase. As one of our favorite '90s starlets, Claire's portrayal of Angela gave us someone we could relate to growing up. She went through the same friend dramas, family conflict, and, of, course, young love ups and downs we faced in those terrible in-between years of high school. So in honor of Claire's birthday, we've got the best love, sex, and dating musings from Angela on </span><b style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">My So-Called Life</b><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">.</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><br /><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Rayanne: "You wanna have sex with him."</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Angela: "Who?"</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Rayanne: "Who? Jordan. Catalano. Come on, I'm not gonna tell anyone, just admit it."</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Angela: "I just like how he's always leaning. Against stuff. He leans great. Well, either sex or a conversation. Ideally both."</div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="line-height: 18px;">"Love is when you look into someone's eyes and suddenly you go all the way inside, to their soul, and you both know instantly. I always imagined I'd fall in love nursing a blind soldier who was wounded in battle. Or maybe while rescuing someone in the middle of a blizzard, seconds before the avalanche hits. I thought at least by the age of 15 I'd have a love life, but I don't even have a like life!"</span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="line-height: 18px;"><br /></span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><img src="http://media2.onsugar.com/files/2012/04/15/4/301/3019466/a41121b9d86fa474_05.preview.jpg" /></div><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">"I couldn't stop thinking about it — the like, fact of it. That people had sex. That they just had it. That sex was this thing people had. Like a rash, or a Rottweiler. Everything started to seem, like, pornographic or something. Like, Miss Krzyzanowski had sex. So does Mr. Katimski. They both have sex. They could have sex together, like right now. I am, like, the sickest person."</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><img src="http://media3.onsugar.com/files/2012/04/15/4/301/3019466/6ce51e29b24a3b39_1308146687my-so-called.preview.jpg" /><br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">"I loved Jordan Catalano so much, and talked about him so much, and thought about him so much, it was like he lived inside me. Like he had taken possession of my soul, or something. And then one day . . . I got over him!"</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><br /><br /><h2 style="background-color: white; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 27px; line-height: 30px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center; text-transform: uppercase;"><a href="http://www.tressugar.com/My-So-Called-Life-Quotes-22638410?slide=4" target="_blank">MY SO-CALLED LOVE LIFE: ANGELA CHASE ON SEX AND DATING</a></h2>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-70745316300848460802012-04-12T20:10:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:02.704-07:00How to Love Again<br /><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Surrender the Old You</h2><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">Identify the emotional obstacles in your present life and commit to remove them. Appreciate your past but rejoice in the possibilities of the future.</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/123/full/42-25068122.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Love Yourself</h2></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">The more you love yourself, the more likely you are to attract a person who is emotionally healthy.</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/113/full/42-23469903.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Nurture Yourself</h2></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">Self-nurturing is the basic foundation of building the Self. Be kind to yourself, daily!</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/103/full/42-23077019-opt.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Know the Type of Love You Want</h2></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">Think about your next relationship. Set a standard for what you are seeking and what you will not accept.</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/093/full/42-22575053.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Be Proactive in Your Happiness</h2></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">Get out. Go out. Go to all the places you personally enjoy. Don’t obsess that “singles” are not there, this step is about you.</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/083/full/42-21637725.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Open Yourself to the Possibilities</h2></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">Remain open to new possibilities and you will become a magnet for greater opportunities.</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/183/full/42-23068821.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Ease Into New Relationships Slowly</h2></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">It is impossible to replace your lost love. Instead, allow new love to grow and blossom in its own way (on its own time).</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/193/full/42-23044301.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Let Me Help You</h2></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 14px;">Have questions or comments? I want to hear about it! You can find me on </span><a href="http://twitter.com/#!/paulcbrunson" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #0c95b2; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 14px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_new">Twitter</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 14px;"> or </span><a href="https://www.facebook.com/PaulCBrunson" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #0c95b2; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 14px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_new">Facebook</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 14px;"> any time.</span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/513/full/url-1.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h1 style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 24px; margin-bottom: 15px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;"><a href="http://photos.essence.com/galleries/how_to_love_again#1118513" target="_blank">How to Love Again</a></h1></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6874716406851302452.post-88560948022046217842012-04-12T20:02:00.000-07:002012-04-22T03:07:02.802-07:00Modern Day Matchmaker: Don't Be Afraid to Love AgainBy Paul Carrick Brunson<br /><br /><img alt="Modern Day Matchmaker: How to Love Again" src="http://ll-media.essence.com/2011/12/19/woman-hugging-man-400x295.jpg" /><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 13px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 13px; text-align: left;">The average person falls in love seven times prior to marriage. Does this shock you? I bet you’re thinking, “Wow, seven times, that’s a lot! I haven’t been in love that many times.” You’re not alone. I have yet to find someone who can attest to this figure.</span><br /><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></span><br /><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="background-color: white; line-height: 13px;">Interestingly enough, what I have found is that most people rarely, if ever, have been in love. Moreover, many believe that love is not even possible for them. The most popular response I received when I tweeted that statistic was, “Paul, I have only been in love once and don’t think I can love again.” Perhaps they've been hurt, burned bad by someone in their past, and something inside just doesn't want to become vulnerable again to love's ways.</span><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; line-height: 13px;">I am dedicating this post to everyone (men and women) who do not believe that love after loss is possible. I am here to tell you it is! These 12 steps will lead you to love again.</span><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 13px; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><br /><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; line-height: 13px; text-align: -webkit-auto;"><br /></span></span></span><br /><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="line-height: 13px; text-align: -webkit-auto;"><b>Free Yourself</b></span></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; line-height: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="line-height: 13px; text-align: -webkit-auto;"><b><br /></b></span></span></span></div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">You can’t love again until you heal the pain that your lost love inflicted. Grieve, and as you do, you will become more emotionally healthy.</span><br /><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/173/full/very-cute-couple-young-opt.jpg" /><br /><br /><br /><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;"><span style="font-size: small;">Consider a Therapist</span></h2><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">Therapy saves and changes lives, period. If you are having a particularly hard time with the grieving process, a good therapist can guide you through. Feel free to contact me for therapist referrals anytime.</span></div><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span><br /><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/163/full/sex-in-the-kitchen.jpg" /><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span><br /><br /><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Recognize That You Thrive From Love</h2><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">Loving others is critical to our human existence. It is important to understand that without </span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">love, life will never feel full.</span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/153/full/couple-feeding.jpg" /></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Accept Who You Are</h2></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">Accepting all parts of you gives you ownership of your journey and the power to decide what stays, what goes, and what can evolve.</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/143/full/big-smile-woman-brick-opt.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h2 id="image_title" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; margin-bottom: 17px; margin-left: 20px; margin-right: 20px; margin-top: 30px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;">Decide Love Is Worth the Risk</h2></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">The fear of loving again and losing again is a real risk. However, can you afford to keep your heart closed?</span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;"><br /></span></div><div><img alt="Very-cute-couple-young-opt" src="http://cdn.static.telepixtv.com/photos/essencegallery2/system/images/gallery/001/118/133/full/42-26372218.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><h1 style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 24px; margin-bottom: 15px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; visibility: visible;"><a href="http://photos.essence.com/galleries/how_to_love_again#1118133" target="_blank">How to Love Again</a></h1></div>adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00513845977012968476noreply@blogger.com0