Recently, broadcaster and writer Stephen Frymade a controversial statement on female sexuality, saying that women do not enjoy having sex.
He has been quoted saying: "I feel sorry for straight men. The only reason women will havesex with them is that sex is the price they are willing to pay for a relationship with a man, which is what they want. Of course, a lot of women will deny this and say, 'Oh no, but I love sex, I love it!' But do they go around having it the way that gay men do?"
Most women have rubbished this belief. Rosie Boycott, journalist and feminist, has said the remarks were 'kind of rubbish'. A mediaperson Sulekha Sharma says, "Since the time women realised the power to sustain their lifestyle with their own income and also had the choice to avoid pregnancies, she stopped paying for relationships with sex. Today, if a woman wants to get intimate with a man, she will make her way...perhaps just the way a man did decades ago."
TOI spoke to a few women in the city about this.
I don't think that sex is the price women pay for realtionships. If you are in a relationship then you have an emotional bonding with that person and it is not at all only about sex.
Relationships are important but it is not true that woman will have sex in exchange of relationship. Relationships are a matter of the heart. One needs a person to share one's happiness and sorrows and for that emotional bonding is a necessity and men today are emotional as well as understanding just like women are.
With due respect to Mr Fry, I don't think anybody needs to feel sorry for straight men. Look at all the gorgeous women in their lives... I agree women put relationships ahead of sex because they need to feel secure and a good relationship does make them feel secure. Somebody should tell Mr. Fry women do enjoy sex! Don't we all want a rocking sex life with the person we love... And yes a good bond always enhances sex and vice versa!
I don't think women have to pay any price for anything. Relationships are important but it is a woman who can make or break it.
You only have sex with your partner when you are sure about your relationship. A relationship is not a business and involves feelings and emotions.
No girl ever has to make any compromise for continuing any relationship these days. If a relationship is based on such conditions then it is not a relationship, it is a compromise.
I don't agree with this theory, as I believe women are far more aware of what they want and especially when it comes to sex, I feel women need sex as much as men do because its a natural instinct and desire... Sex is an important part of a relationship and feelings are always mutual....The belief that sex is not important is a dangerous and intimacy-eroding myth. Sex provides an important time-out from the pressures of our daily lives and allows us to experience a quality level of closeness, vulnerability and sharing with our partners...Women equally want a good sex life and cannot be made to sound like a victim....
I think women are financially independent and strong emotionally and they wouldn't stick in a marriage if they are ill-treated or unhappy. Sex is not just a means to stay in a relationship nor a reason. Women also have one night stands or would have sex if they enjoy it and it is a part of a relationship.
For men sex is like brushing their teeth. Its a biological need which is their weekness. I am not saying women don't have the urge but we crave for security and comfort that a relationship offers. Guess men are from mars and women from venus.
Is sex the price women pay for relationships?