HOW TO LAND A ONE-NIGHT STAND

BY DAVID WYGANT

Leave it like that. You might run into her a few weeks later and she might be in the mood - and you've already planted the seed."

 
 Have you always wanted to go on a date, sleep with the woman immediately and never see her again? Do you find yourself at the bar on a Friday night looking around and wondering how to land that one-night stand? Here are three ways of pulling it off.
  

Situation No. 1: On A Date

Let's say you're on a date and you like her, but you know you don't like her enough to be your girlfriend. You know that you don't want to spend the next month pretending to like her, pretending to want to have a relationship with her, just so you can get in her pants.

So, here you go: You're laughing with her, you're having a good time, and then it all comes down to the crucial moment: How do you tell this beautiful woman sitting across from you that you do not want a relationship but would like to sleep with her?
This is what I'd do: Look directly in her eyes and do not break eye contact. Then say this: "Listen, I'm not looking for a relationship right now. I think you're wonderful, but I’ve got to tell you that I know I can't give you what you need right now, and there's no reason for us to do the dance. But I do find you intriguing, really alluring and incredibly sexy, and I would love to spend the night with you tonight and show you exactly how I feel right now."

Do not break eye contact at this moment because this is going to tell whether you're strong and not afraid, and it's also going to show her that you're a guy who's done this before and you're going to give her a good time. 

She might hem, she might haw a little bit, and she might say, “Well I'm not really looking for a one-night stand.” That's when you look at her again and say this: "I'm honest. I really don't like to play games at all. I could have lied to you, and I could have told you I wanted a relationship. I could have pursued you like a lot of guys do, just to get into your pants, and then leave you confused when I don't call. But I have to tell you I am so intrigued by what you feel like. I can't stop thinking about how you and I would be together, because I know just by looking at you there are a lot of things that I can do to make you feel unbelievable tonight. And I really would like that opportunity to do that right now."

Once again, do not hesitate. The choice is hers. If she says no, look at her and tell her you understand and respect that. Leave it at that. You might run into her a few weeks later, and she might be in the mood -- and you've already planted the seed.

Situation No. 2: At The Bar 

So, you're at a bar and you're looking around. You find the one woman who keeps breaking away from her friends. She's constantly breaking for the bathroom, going to the bar herself to get a drink. She’s basically turning her back on the group and looking at different men.
What she's doing is trying to find the guy who she can either get a date with or have a fling with. What you need to do is become very playful with her. Call her out on what she's doing. Walk by and say, “I know what you're doing tonight, and I know what you're looking for. I've been watching you. I'll be back.” Leave a little bit of intrigue. About 10 minutes later, whisper in her ear and say, “What was wrong with that guy? Was that guy not the one for you for the night? I know you're interviewing tonight; I can see it.”

"You're baiting, you're playing, but you're calling her out on her sexual energy for the night."

Come back about 20 minutes later after she's done talking to another guy and just say, “What is it about all these men? They’re blowing it. You've been breaking away from your friends all night and not one guy has picked up that you're looking for a fling tonight.” And walk away again.

Then, about 15 minutes later, when she's talking to a guy, look at the guy and say, “Hey, I've got to talk to my friend for one second. Just control yourself. She'll be back in a little bit.” Put your arm around her, whisper in her ear and say, “Come with me.”

Then pull her aside, look at her and say: “That guy's not the one for you. First off, he looks like he's a selfish lover, and, secondly, I just don't think he's going to call you the next day and appreciate what you're trying to do. Look, I've been watching you all night long. It's time you and I decided to talk and get to know each other to see if we're going to do what I think we're going to do tonight.”

I mean, just be presumptive. And then she'll deny it.

Just kind of roll with it a little bit. And then sit down and talk to her for about 15 or 20 minutes, and have a good time. Look at her and say, “Are we going to do this or what? I've been watching you all night long. There are so many things I want to do. I just want to kiss your body from head to toe. I just didn't want to tell anybody about it, because I don't want any other woman to hear and get jealous.” Make eye contact when you do this. Whisper, pull back, make eye contact, and then sit back like the greatest salesman in the world and shut up and allow her to make the decision. You'll get that one-night stand.

Situation No. 3: On Vacation

 So, you're on vacation and you want to go home with that incredible story. You want your friends at the gym to be jealous about all your exploits in Cancun. So, what do you do? You basically do the exact same thing as in the last situation (at the bar), except this time you go up to a woman and say, “Look, I know what you want. You want a great vacation story. I mean, we're in Mexico right now. It's beautiful here. I'm sure you want to have great sex on the beach or in your room. Look, we're adults, we're both away on vacation, nobody knows. What happens in Mexico stays in Mexico. Why don't we go back to my room. I've got a bottle of wine and why don't we explore the feelings that we're having right now? Why don't we just take a walk on the beach and see what happens?” 

 Same principals. You're baiting, you're playing, but you're calling her out on her sexual energy for the night. Most guys can't read sexual energy, and that’s why most guys can’t initiate a one-night stand.That’s most guys. And then there’s you.

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