I must have someone I can count on to always support me

There is no greater pain to a man than a woman who talks about him behind his back; a woman who cannot find it in her heart to support him when he really needs it. Sure there's times when she thinks he's acting like a fool. That's when we need your support the most!

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I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner.

These responses, from millions of men, represent the most basic needs a man has who is serious about a relationship. "I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner." It's a simple request, really. Life can be long and hard and a deep well of affection is a good thing to have on your side.

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I must have someone who is comfortable giving and receiving affection. 

When men think to themselves about the kinds of women they don't want "flinty" leads the list. They shudder thinking of a woman who is hard, unyielding and cold to the touch, because what men crave is affection; giving it and receiving it. They daydream about the smallest and most profound touches, especially if it has been a while since they've found a woman worthy of them.

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I must have someone who is sharp and can enjoy the humorous side of life. 

The most popular "must have" that eHarmony men choose is "I must have someone who is sharp and can enjoy the humorous side of life." While it is our interpretation, there is nothing to suggest that men are looking for a stand-up comic as a wife. Rather, this is a woman who takes life easy. A woman who laughs at the troubles, and is smart enough to know what's important and what's not. This is a woman who is a good partner for a long weekend in Paris, a car trip with the children, or a quiet evening at home.

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BONUS Least Popular Must Have - I must have a partner who shares my willingness to volunteer and support community and/or social causes.

When it comes to eHarmony men the volunteer spirit is not a must have. We can hope it's a nice to have.

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