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Yeah, we all know there's no such thing as the perfect guy (OK, maybe 69 percent perfect), but when we're happy and in love, some of us think our guys are sent from heaven above. And while in the past, there have been conflicting reports on whether idealizing your partner is actually beneficial for your relationship, a new study in Psychology Today says it helps to keep the love alive—even after you say "I do."
The study, published in Psychological Science, looked at how idealizing partners impacted marriage satisfaction by following 193 newlyweds over three years. Researchers then asked participants to rate their partners, themselves and their "ideal" mates.
After calculating the correlation between ratings, "researchers were able to conclude the protective effect of partner idealization comes NOT from simply seeing one's partner more positively—that is, being blind to the negative qualities of one's spouse. Rather, the idealization process consists of bringing your image of the ideal partner closer to how you see your spouse, with warts and all."
So it's not that we see the men in our life as "perfect," but more aptly that even with their issues, they are "perfect" for us! Sounds like a definition of a soul mate to me.
What do you make of this study? Do you think your guy is perfect for you? Is he close to your ideal mate? How so?
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The study, published in Psychological Science, looked at how idealizing partners impacted marriage satisfaction by following 193 newlyweds over three years. Researchers then asked participants to rate their partners, themselves and their "ideal" mates.
After calculating the correlation between ratings, "researchers were able to conclude the protective effect of partner idealization comes NOT from simply seeing one's partner more positively—that is, being blind to the negative qualities of one's spouse. Rather, the idealization process consists of bringing your image of the ideal partner closer to how you see your spouse, with warts and all."
So it's not that we see the men in our life as "perfect," but more aptly that even with their issues, they are "perfect" for us! Sounds like a definition of a soul mate to me.
What do you make of this study? Do you think your guy is perfect for you? Is he close to your ideal mate? How so?
* Throw Out Your "Must List"! Why Mr. Perfect May Not Be Who You Thought He Was
* 6 Warning Signs You're Dating an Insta-Boyfriend
* 8 Situations That Will Test Your Relationship Compatibility
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