Are you the Type of Woman that Men Desire?

Figuring out what men really desire is never easy, since men come in different variations. However, regardless of what category a man falls in, there are standard things that every man is looking for in a woman. Are you the type of woman that men dream about being with? We all want to be an object of desire- the kind of woman that men talk about, dream about and long to be with. We all want to be chased and admired by men and to be appreciated, respected and admired for our existence, appearance, personality and accomplishments.


So what do men really desire in a woman and are you that woman? Well, the first and most important thing to remember is to:

Be Real- be who you really are, rather than try to be what you think you should be or who you think people want you to be. It is easy to sense a real person from an artificial one and one of the main turn offs for a man is a woman who is not herself and gives off a fake vibe.


Have Confidence: Nothing is more attractive to a man than a woman who is confident and feels comfortable and happy in her skin. A woman who feels good about herself is a woman most likely with a good head on her shoulders, rational, focused and has good direction in life. If a woman does not have confidence in herself, then a man feels and sees no reason to have confidence in either and he will not want to invest his time and effort in a woman he will have to baby sit emotionally all the time.


Dress Fashionably: Wearing the most expensive apparel is not the most important thing to a man, but it is important that a woman keep up with her appearances. A woman who dresses sharply comes off as a woman who is successful and who treats herself with love and respect and therefore a man will not want to do less for her either- he will love and respect you too. So be sure to keep yourself updated with fashion and keep yourself well groomed. This will not only draw men to you, but you will also feel good about yourself- which is the first priority before you please anyone else! And remember, dress sexy, but classy as well- and always leave something to the imagination.


Express Intellect - Being desirable to a man is not just about having a pretty face or shapely figure. A woman with intelligence is important to and a man wants to be with a woman who will have something to talk about and who will teach him new things, just as he will teach you new things. Everyone is unique and has their own personal talents and areas of higher intelligence than others- so be sure to express that side of yourself to prove that you do have the whole package- an attractive appearance along with other intellectual surprises. Share your hobbies, share things you have learned through your life experiences and show what he has been missing out on before he met you!


Be Sweet and Feminine - Okay, today women are more independent and career oriented, but that does not mean we should have to give up and forget our feminine roots. Women are delicate creatures after all- we are sweet and giving and it is important for a man to see these qualities in a woman. It is not weak to show a man that you are sweet and care taking- after all, this is the type of woman a man dreams coming home to- someone who will lovingly welcome him home with a sweet feminine smile and take care of him. Never lose your special feminine roots- show him your sweet and romantic side.


Tell him what you want - It is understandable that you want a man who will treat you beautifully without you having to give him directions- and you should never lower your standards when it comes to this. However, you also have to remember that men cannot read minds and let us face it- we women are often emotionally unpredictable creatures and are not always easy to read. Men love it when a woman has the strength and confidence to tell him what she wants. Men want to please women, sp do not be afraid to open up and let him know what it is important to you.


Stay Glamorous - This does not mean that you should walk on eggshells and worry about your looks all the time. You should feel secure enough in your relationship to know that even when you are not made up, your man will still adore you and will not look at other women. However, this does not mean you should let yourself go and not care about the things that were once important to you. Relationship usually start going downhill when one or both partners stop caring about the little things, such as dressing up for each other, little romantic gestures and so on. So, remember the little things and always keep your self-confidence in tune by taking care of yourself- and your partner will automatically keep admiring you!


Like Your Body - Men love a woman who loves her body. A woman who walks around feeling good about her body and knowing that her body is beautiful is incredibly sexy to a man and make him curious and eager to get to know that woman. So be sure to build your physical confidence and focus on bringing out your best features. Nobody is prefect- everyone has flaws, but that does not mean that you should advertise your flaws. Get to know yourself and find your strong physical points and bring them out for the world to see and admire. If there are parts of your body that you believe could use some help, then do something about rather than complain.


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Do What Dr. Martin Luther King Jr Did If You Want To Attract Love

By Shay "Your Date Diva" Williams

3 Things Dr. Martin Luther King Jr had that you should that will help you attract “The One!”


We have all heard of the greatness of Martin Luther King Jrand how he helped to revolutionize the world with his message of civil rights and justice for all. However, it is important that singles dating look closely at what he was able to achieve and model his behavior in our love lives so that we too can manifest the “Dream” of true love! Here are three key things Martin Luther King Jr had that you should if you want to attract “The One,” without taking forever to do it.


1. He had a dream. Many of you who are single can't see yourself being in a healthy relationship being loved unconditionally. Martin Luther King, Jr. dreamed of the seemingly “impossible” during a time when there appeared to be insurmountable odds against his dream becoming a reality but he dreamed anyways. It is important that no matter how dismal your love life appears to be, you continue to dream about your wedding day, the love you will share with your soul mate, and the happy future you two will have together. If you can see it, you will attract it and although Martin Luther King Jr didn’t live to see his dream become a reality, we all enjoy the benefits of his courage to dream.


2. The love in his heart created momentum to continue in the face of adversity. Martin Luther King Jr did not intend to become a leader, he was pushed there by the people who needed him. What kept him moving forward even in the face of horrible conditions was the compelling love he had in his heart for all people. His love and connection to the people he served acted as the wind beneath his wings that wouldn’t let him stop fighting until he achieved his goal. You must have this same tenacity to remain in the dating game no matter how many times you have been hurt or disappointed by love. If you have no children or have children then love them enough to want them to see a demonstration of what true love looks like and stay in the game until you attract it. If you can feel the love you want to attract in your heart before it shows up, you will create a powerful magnet for pulling your dream closer to you!


3. He transformed his intellectual intelligence into emotional intelligence and did something towards making a change. Martin Luther King Jr was an extremely intelligent man. He graduated college before he was even 20 years old and received a Doctor of Philosophy degree from Boston University by the age of 26. He was intelligent enough to know that radical change was needed in the world and that something must be done about it but it wasn’t until he returned from India, inspired by Mahatma Gandhi’s nonviolence protest message, did he understand his calling on an emotional level and what he could do to be an effective voice in the Civil Rights movement. Mostsingles looking for love know that they should love themselves and have standards when datingbut they still do destructive things that keep them from achieving their goal of true love. If you want anything in life, you must be willing to sacrifice something for it and sometimes that means going against what your mind and body is telling you to do now (ie sex too soon, booty partners, etc), in order to gain what you desire later. It will not be until you learn this on an emotional level and “feel” the love in your heart for your future soul mate, once you have dreamed of your future with them, that you will be able to attract this very possible reality into your life. Have the courage of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. to dream your dream of true and lasting love and LEARNhow to attract it, even in the face of fear, hurt and discouraging dating challenges and one day you too will manifest the “Dream” of the true love you are meant to have!


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“Look Ma No Hands!” – How To Experience A Mindgasm

By Allura Joy

“Look ma, no hands!” Yes, it is possible to think your way to orgasm with simple meditation.


It is possible to bring yourself to a powerful orgasm while sitting absolutely still with no movement, physical stimulation, or friction whatsoever. Many women have testified to having the ability to produce a full-on “mindgasm” during meditation, or rather a self-hypnosis type of technique. It is a matter of having focused intention, good muscle control and rhythmic deep breathing.


The best way to understand how a woman can ‘think herself to orgasm’, is how stage hypnotists can give women instant orgasms with the power of suggestion. Mark Cunningham, a well-known hypnotist says, “The key is, there is a part inside a woman’s mind that is capable of infinite positive pleasurable response. It is always active, so you aren’t actually going into her mind and making her have an orgasm. You are unlocking, unleashing and directing that which already exists. But you have to know how to access the subconscious mind.” Hypnosis is the fastest way to access the subconscious mind.


This stress-reducing self-hypnosis method will reveal how the concept of a “mindgasm” is possible. The overall breathing meditation is beneficial to practice several times a day, whenever you have a few minutes to spare. It is  a terrific way to relieve anxiety and mental tension, as it can be done while sitting at your work desk, waiting at a traffic light, in the restroom, or anywhere at all that you can dedicate some time to just be still and relax with this deep breathing technique.


Following is a guided meditation to help you relax, reduce stress and release mental barriers and learn to achieve a “mindgasm”. You need to let go of all thoughts and just allow yourself to be fully present with the physical sensations without distractions. With a little practice, you can bring yourself to a powerful pleasure-filled orgasm right there in your office chair without anyone around you even knowing!


Guided Mindgasm Meditation


Sit upright either in a chair, on a couch, bed, or the floor. Your forearms can rest on your thighs with your hands facing up in a receptive relaxed position. Close your eyes and relax. Extend the top of your head upward, toward the ceiling – lengthening the spine. Bring your shoulders back and down, allowing your chest to open up. Straighten the spine, extending the crown of your head to rise up even higher.


Becoming very comfortable in this posture, remain still and quiet focusing only on your rhythmic breathing. Take deep breaths slowly through the nose, filling your abdomen more so than your chest. Allow your belly to completely fill up expanding your entire torso. Gently release the breath, slowly out through the nose, contracting your abdomen to totally empty out all of the air – releasing tension and resistance with each exhale.


Just practice deep breathing for a minute or two, letting everything else go. The mind will become clearer as thoughts will fade with every breath. Slow the breathing and focus only on the physical sensations of the air moving in and out through the nose, feeling the belly expand and contract.

"Look ma, no hands!" Yes, it is possible to think your way to orgasm with simple meditation.


Inhale and exhale’ slowly and deliberately. Continue with this same rhythmic deep breathing throughout this exercise. As you continue to slowly breathe in and out, bring your attention to your genital area. When you inhale and expand your belly, also push out with your entire genital area as if you’re bearing down. As you exhale, contract all of your pelvic muscles as you squeeze all of the air out of your belly. Continue to expand and contract as in a slow intense kegel exercise. Slow the breath even more and deeply intensify the muscle contractions as much as you can.


As you practice this method of cleansing the mind and body through deep powerful breathing, we can tap into that place in our mind that is capable of infinite pleasure. It is always active and easy to access. We have the ability to unlock the mystery, unleash the power and potential of what already exists. When we simply intend the feeling of orgasm, then it is right there in our mind as we direct the cells and nerves to generate the physical sensations.


Continue to breathe deeply, expanding and contracting your pelvic muscles, intensifying the contractions with every exhale. You’ll begin to feel a tingle in the clitoral area as you direct focused energy and intention to increase sensitivity with every contraction. As you tighten and release, blood flows in and out of each blood vessel, stimulating the nerve fibers and producing powerful feelings of ecstasy and intense pleasure.


You are not trying to do anything. You’re simply allowing the blissful sensations to be present as your natural state of being. Your awareness is expansive, still breathing deeply, contracting and releasing, push out and pulling in the pelvic muscles, and allowing the energy to pulsate throughout the genital area.


This may take several minutes or well beyond 10 or 20 minutes to begin feeling the physical sensations associated with orgasm. It may also take numerous attempts, so continue to practice this extraordinary ancient Kama Sutra technique. Bring the meditation into your love-making to better regulate the intensity of your orgasms and enjoy multiple waves of immense gratification. It may also be helpful to apply a few drops of stimulation gel onto your clitoris before you begin, as it can help increase blood flow and sensitivity. The tingly warm sensation helps you focus your attention on directing energy throughout your genital area.


Also, the more often you practice this exercise, the better over-all muscle control you will have, as well as developing a tighter vagina, which most men seem to prefer. It can significantly help with the process of child birth, and maintaining a healthy reproductive system.

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