So, What's the Magical Key for Two Really, Really, Ridiculously Busy People to Be Able to Date Each Other? Hand It Over, ASAP

by Meredith TuritsAnd on this installment of "Meredith Injudiciously Live-Blogs Her Brand New Relationship," I'm talking about...oh, wait. I have to run. No, no, maybe I have time...er, nope. Too busy.Like, really. What did people do before phones and syncing and stuff? Write by hand? Perish the thoughSo, that's basically what my conversations with J are like while we're trying to find time to actually see each other. Watching both of us with our iPhones in our hands, flipping through our respective calendars for that golden mutual white space is actually kind of funny (you know, in that kind of funny-but-I-really-feel-bad-because-this-is-awkward-so-I'll-just-keep-nervously-laughing...

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Do You Really Want A Stripper As Your Girlfriend?

What guy doesn’t like going to strip clubs?  Even married guys like it; in fact, it’s why strip clubs exist.  The girls there do the things ordinary women won’t do.  They’re fantasy girls.  However, there is bound to be that one guy who actually wants to date a stripper.  It seems like the greatest idea ever, but there are a whole lot of minuses to balance out any plusses that might be involved.  If you honestly do have any aspirations of making that woman sliding on the pole in the 6-inch heels your girlfriend, let alone want to be seen with you in public, how would you go about doing that?The decision to pursue...

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Crazy Girlfriends - A Risk - Reward Proposition

What is it about crazy women that men find so attractive?  You’ve probably met one or two in your adventures in the datinggame.  They’re usually really attractive—in fact, very attractive—but they come with lots and lots and lots of baggage.  They have “issues” if you will.  They tend to be clingy and unpredictable, with lots of mood swings.  When they’re happy, they’re really happy, and when they’re happy, then you’re going to be really happy.  However, if you somehow screw up or if they just don’t feel right that day, you’re in trouble.  They’re wild in and out of bed, and dating a woman with this kind...

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I Love You - There Are Times When You Don't Say It

Those three little words are the hardest words a man can say; on the flipside, three of the easiest are, “More Beer Please.”  Why are men so difficult when it comes to the “L” word?  Saying it implies commitment, and if a woman is interested in commitment but the man isn’t, saying “I love you” doesn’t make things any better.  A man should absolutely, under any circumstances, not say those three magic words unless he’s planning on being in it for the long haul.  Women take that sort of thing seriously.One of the absolute worst places to say “I love you” is in bed.  Of course, a woman who is freely having sex with you would...

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Spiritual Partnerships

By Gary ZukavIs a spiritual partnership the same as a marriage? It could be, but usually it is not. First things first: A marriage is between two people who promise each other to stay together no matter WHAT happens. This can be a very comforting thing, and it can also be a license for either of them to abuse, disregard or disrespect the other. Some marriages can continue a long time this way. Perhaps you have seen one. A spiritual partnership is between people who promise themselves to use all of their experiences to grow spiritually. They use their emotions to show them how to create constructive and healthy and joyful consequences instead of destructive and unhealthy and painful consequences. Can you imagine using a horrible, painful, can't-get-any-worse experience to grow spiritually?...

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Girl's Best Friend: If You're Waiting for Him to Change, It Could Be Awhile

By Nathan Hale WilliamsOne slow Saturday I was watching one of “those” shows. You know the shows intelligent people hate to admit they watch, but your bored and nothing else is on television? The culprit was Love & Hip-Hop,” and one woman was telling the other woman (I really don’t know their names) that she should hang in there with the rapper guy she was dating (I think Fabolous), because he would eventually “change.“ I immediately turned the television to the Food Network. Bored or not, I couldn’t take anymore.Ironically, I’ve heard this same “wisdom” given to one of my sister-friends who was dating a basketball player....

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Real Talk: 5 Valentine's Day Gifts for Your Man

By Demetria L. LucasAre you ready for Valentine's Day? To me, it seems like it just snuck up this year. But luckily I have the weekend to fetch a gift for my dude — so do you.Rewind. Yes, you read that right. Your man should be getting a gift. From you. On Valentine’s Day. If he has been on point this year — and he better have been, if you're still claiming him — he is deserving of a gift. V-Day isn't just about women receiving; it’s about giving too. Don't know what to get him? Skip the stuff we like — though a sexy new lingerie set for you may be the gift that keeps on giving for him. But no, really. Don't buy that man chocolate, roses, flowers,...

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Five Reasons to Love Valentine's Day.

By Meredith Fineman I know it's on your mind already, and has been since it turned February/Groundhog Day/Homigod it's almost Valentine's day. Let's be real here. So, guys mostly dislike Valentine's Day, am I right? (Amirite?) I think that they probably think it's a silly, made up holiday like Reindeer Day and Dress Up My Intern In a Clown Outfit And Make Her Walk Through Bloomingdales Day. (My personal favorite holiday!) It's not.Gentlebutts, girls care about it, and so should you. Blame it on marketing, or the chocolate industry, or Hallmark, or Cupid. We all want to feel loved and cared for and needed. That's it. That's the reason,...

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Flirting Tips for the Tongue-Tied, or the Simply Shy

By BOB TEDESCHIWith Valentine’s Day approaching, more apps to help singles flirt their way to romantic attachment are popping up on mobile devices.The Web abounds with matchmaking sites like Match.com, eHarmony, Jazzed and Grindr, and all those services have apps for people who want to arrange dates remotely. But flirting apps are different. Some are meant to solve the so-called last yard problem, in which a prospective flirter might lose the nerve to say hello, while other apps help people engage more with people they’ve already met.IFlirt4U ($1 on Apple) is for the first-time encounter. It’s for across-the-room flirtations, presumably...

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