Dating Advice for Women

What constantly surprises me is the lack of effort people put intotheir dating lives (both men and women). They will spend 12-14 years inschool and 4 years in college to get a good job, but they will invest almost notime in improving their love lives.

Crazy, huh? A recent relationship survey showed that to most women, theirhusband or partner is more important to them than their job.Yet they have spent almost no time discovering the important things tocatch and keep a great man:

-> What it isthat attracts a great guy.
-> How keep him faithful.
-> How to get him to invest in a relationship.

Thinkabout that for a minute. When was the last time you sat down andfigured out what you needed to do to find and keep a man that wasattractive, charming and someone you would like to introduce to yourfriends?

Most single girls answered that they just needed to be a littlethinner, dress a little better or be in better shape. This is great advice if you arejust looking for a man who wants sex and doesn't particularly careabout you or how you feel.

Butwhat about finding a man that does care about you? A man that wants tospend time with you. A man that doesn't want the date to end. A manthat feels a pang of jealousy when he sees you with anyone but him?

Thisis where good looks will not help you. He may pretend that he likes youjust so he can get you into bed one more time. But what about the guywho isn't only concerned with hanging out after 9pm and getting a blow job? What about the guywho just wants to spend time with you?

Like Isaid before, this is where your looks will not help you. But what you do and say will.

Becausemost women never invest the time and energy into learning what it isthat captivates a man and makes him crave you, there are only a fewthat truly know the secret of catching and keeping a man's heart.

Ionce met a girl that knew how to capture a man's heart. She wasamazing. Everytime I saw her, I felt a little dizzy. Every kiss feltbetter than the last. And every time we had sex, I was in heaven.

Needlessto say, when she left me I was truly heartbroken. It's been over 2years and I still haven't met anyone that comes close to her.

As a way to get over her, I have decided to write these dating tipsfor women based on how she acted around me, to help give you some'super powers' for attracting the man of your dreams.

Belowyou'll find some of the dating advice that guests have written for thesite. It's certainly nowhere near as helpful as the information thatyou'll find in the book, but hopefully you'll be able to find someuseful tips in there.

Dating Adviceby Various Guests of Real-Dating-Tips.com

 Let's be real for a minute. There is not one perfectpiece of dating advice for womento fix your love life and find the man of your dreams. Luckily thereare some really great things you can start doing now to increase yousuccess with men and give yourself the best possible chance of findingtheman of your dreams.

Not justadvice forattracting men, but getting into great, long- lasting relationshipswithguys too.

At the end of this page there are more articles with datingadvice for women, but for nowthere is some core information that you always need to keep in mindwhen either flirting and chatting with guys or when you are in arelationship with them.

1. Get a life

What does this mean exactly? Make sure you take care of your life andyourneedsfirst. Make sure that your health, job/school and other relationshipsare in order.

Guys may be attracted to you because of your looks, which can be great,but if the rest of your life is a train wreck then any potentialrelationship will not last.

On top of this, you will have other things going on in your life, whichleads us to...

2. Do not drop anything for a guy

So you met the guy of your dreams last weekend. Now he wants to hangout on Wednesday evening. But you already organized to go for drinkswith the girls on Wednesday evening. You may want to ditch the girlsand go on a date with this guy. But and there is a big but....

Droppingeverything for a guy is not attractive.Guys mayappreciate it for a date or two. But they will quickly grow bored ofyou because you just become like every other girl to him. This is whyhaving an active social life is so important. This is a reallyconuter-intuitive bit of dating advice for women, but have fatih, itworks! Remember how you reallywanted that one guy because you could never get his full attention? Hewas a challenge....

3. Be a challenge

Guys like girls that they have to chase after. They value girls theyhave to catch more than pushovers.

Imagine the Super Bowl (strange analogy, but please listen). It's theultimate prize for a football player. They spend all of high school andcollege just to have the chance to make a team that might never evenmake it to the Super Bowl. It's incredibly tough and 99.99% of footballplayers never make it. But for the ones that do, it's the ultimateprize. They value it because it's a challenge. They don't valuefootball socks as much because you can get them in a shop or borrowthem.

You need to be the Super Bowl, not just another pair of stinky footballsocks, lol!

So in the dating world, that means you have to make men work hard towin you over. You need to be a challenge and we all know that men lovechallenges

4. Have standards

Being a challenge is one thing, but having standards is another. Justbecause a guy is cute, rich, captain of his high school football teamor has a great job does not mean you should start dating him.

Yes you may be attracted to him and enjoy flirting with him, but if youknowhe is a player, then your best bet is to stay away unless you are happytobe tossed aside for the next girl he wants.

There are two things you need to do.

First does he respect you? Is he the kind of guy that will treatyou properly or will he just tell his friends about every detail?

Then you will probably be wondering is her attracted to you.Check out the article for some great tips to know the signs to look outfor if he is attracted to you.

5. Do not treat him as youremotional sponge*

Maybe you had a bad day at work or had a fight with your family. Themost unattractive thing you can do is to pour out all your feelingsthinking it will get the guy you want.

Sure guys are logical and want to fix things. But at the start of arelationship, unloading all your problems onto a guy is not smart. Itsmells of 'help fix my problems, I can't do it myself'.

Thisis probably the harshest bit of dating advice for women you'll hear,but sometimes you really have to work hard to make a relationship work.

(*This is super important at the start of any relationship but less soas it becomes more serious)

6. Do not reward bad behavior

If a guy cancels a date with you without a decent reason or teases youtoo much in front of his/your friends, the worst thing you can do issmile and laugh.

He needs to know when he has stepped over the line. There is no need tothrow your drink at him. But ignore him for a little bit. If it happensagain, you need to tell him straight up when you are alone that you arewalking if he ever tries it again.

It might sound harsh or mean. Well that's because it is. Butrelationships aren't always a breeze. The good ones take work and notrewarding bad behavior is probably the most imposrtant point to takefrom this dating advice for women.

7. Let him open up when he wants to

Ever wonder what he's thinking about.

"How come he never tells me how he feels?"

Here's the thing. If a guy is truly mad about you, then he will open upwhen he is ready.

Prodding and pleading with him to open up about his feelings will gethim doing the exact opposite (the scientific term is cognitivedissonance folks). If he does open up it's only because he felt forcedto and will resent you for it.

8. Be real

Everybody has an ideal version of themselves that they would like otherpeople to see. They hope that the guy they are trying to attract seesthem this way too. Perfect beauty, perfect life.

You're not the only one. Guys do this too. They act macho and like topretend that every girl wants them.

It's okay to present yourself as perfect for the first few dates but ifyou feel like you have to always be 'on' then you will put unneededstress on yourself. This is probably the most important of all thedating advice for women that you can use if you want your relationshipsto last in the long term.

Added to this, the guy you are with will start to notice cracks andslowly start questioning whether or not you are who you say you are.

So you need to bereal when flirting, chatting and dating guys. If theydon't like you for who you are then don't bother with them.

Does this mean I should tell them about my problems straight away.

HELL NO!

Just don't desperately try to hide every single little and imperfectionand blemish.

BE REAL

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Real Love in Dating

Millions of us are out there looking for the “right person”—in bars, at parties, in clubs, at church, and on Internet dating sites, to name a few of the ways we look. Many of us actually succeed in finding what we’re looking for, and then we fall in love, but what happens after that?

60% of marriages end in divorce, and 50% of married women have indicated that if not for finances and children, they would leave their husbands. That leaves only 20% of marriages that would even survive if the partners felt they had a reasonable choice to leave. It is my experience—and that of many other counselors—that 1-2% of all married couples achieve relationships that are as rewarding as they had once hoped. 

The problem seems obvious: Once we find the “right person,” we still have no idea what to do with the relationship. And until we do something dramatically different from what everyone else is doing, our chances of establishing a genuinely happy long-term relationship are truly terrible.
Instead of frantically looking for the next “right person” in our life, what we really need is to learn how to create and sustain loving and rewarding relationships

A healthy relationship is the natural result of two healthy individuals. A great relationship is much like a beautiful duet, which is played on two instruments. Before we can meaningfully participate in a duet, we must learn how to play an instrument by ourselves. Few of us are prepared to be the kind of happy and loving partner that a loving relationship requires. And that brings us to the central question: What do we all require before we can be happy as individuals? What quality must we possess individually before we can participate in a great relationship?

What We All Want Most — Unconditional Love

In order to be happy, what we all want more than anything else is to feel loved. We prove that every day with the songs we sing, the movies we watch, the books we read, and the conversations we have. Love is the strongest theme uniting all these activities, but it’s not just any kind of love we’re looking for.
What we all want most is unconditional love, or Real Love. Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. It’s not Real Love when you do what I want and I like you. That’s relatively worthless; that’s earning or buying love. It’s Real Love when you make mistakes and inconvenience me, but I’m not disappointed or angry.
Sadly, few of us have sufficiently received or given that kind of love—not just during our marriages but for our entire lives. From the time we were small children, we observed that when we didn’t fight with our sisters, didn’t make too much noise in the car, got good grades, and were otherwise obedient and cooperative, our parents and others smiled at us, patted our heads, and spoke kindly. With their words and behavior, they told us what good boys and girls we were.
But what happened when we did fight with our sisters, made too much noise, got bad grades, and dragged mud across the clean living room carpet? Did people smile at us or speak gentle, loving words? No—they frowned, sighed with disappointment, and often spoke in harsh tones. Just as the positive behaviors of other people communicated to us that we were loved, the withdrawal of those behaviors could only mean that we were not being loved. Although it was unintentional, our parents and others taught us this terrible message: “When you’re good, I love you, but when you’re not, I don’t—or certainly I love you a great deal less.”
This conditional love can give us brief moments of satisfaction, but we’re still left with a huge hole in our souls, because only Real Love can make us genuinely happy. Without sufficient Real Love, we can only feel empty and alone, which is the greatest ongoing pain in our lives. In any given negative interaction with a relationship partner, it is the longstanding lack of Real Love inyour life that determines how you feel and respond, not the behavior of your partner in that moment. In any given moment, you react to the amount of love you feel from everyone, past and present, not just from the person you’re interacting with.

Finding Real Love — Changing Ourselves and Our Relationships

Once we understand the critical role of Real Love in our lives, we can begin to do something to find it and make genuine changes in ourselves and in our relationships, instead of just playing games with relationship techniques, which never make much difference in the long term.

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7 Crucial Steps To Get Your Man From “I’m Not Ready” To “I’m Ready And YOU’RE The Only Woman I Want”

By Rori Raye

When my boyfriend told me “he wasn’t ready” for marriage, I thought my life was over. Time after time I’d met and dated great men, but at that critical period when we were about to move forward to a true commitment, things would fall apart.

I started to think that men just won’t commit. That they just didn’t have the commitment gene.

But then I figured out something incredible - that I could absolutely inspire that “forever feeling” in a man. That I could be the person in the relationship deciding whether or not I was satisfied, rather than waiting for him to “come around.”

That’s why I’m here. I don’t want you to have to go through all the pain that I went through. I’ve spent several years studying men and what brings couples to loving, committed relationships. And I’ve developed a simple plan you can follow to inspire your man to commit to you now and forever, and WANT lifelong happiness with you… more than anything else in his life.

How I Almost Ruined My Chances Of Getting the Proposal I Wanted

I’ll tell you something funny…

When I first met my husband, I didn’t even like him. It’s only because he pursued me, pampered me and treated me like a queen that I gave him the time of day. Then, as I started to realize how safe and loved I felt, I developed powerful feelings for him.

When my roommate moved out and he suggested that he move in, I said yes, but told him from the very beginning that I wanted to get married and have children. He assured me that he had the same intention, and that we’d be engaged by the New Year. So he moved in. We got along, had fun, and I started thinking about weddings, and when and how he’d propose to me. Only he didn’t.

Instead of celebrating with a proposal when the ball dropped in Times Square, I got the “speech” about how he “wasn’t ready.” That he needed more time, and if I really cared about him I’d give him some space.

I was stunned - he’d worked SO HARD to get me.

It felt like the floor had dropped out from below me. I’d gotten myself into not just an EMOTIONAL bind, but a PHYSICAL one. He was not only my boyfriend - but also my roommate - and I couldn’t afford to stay in my apartment without him.

I felt totally, completely, utterly TRAPPED. And I didn’t have a clue how to get myself out of this mess and into the married life I was desperate for.

It was so uncomfortable that first week - I just knew I was driving him away, even though I wasn’t bringing up the subject of “commitment.” And that’s when I realized… I’d been making some serious mistakes. Mistakes many women make, and I needed to do something about it. Fast.

The 4 Big Mistakes That Get In The Way Of The Commitment You Want

Mistake #1: Focusing On Events, Not Feelings

We women are taught to believe that events, and the time we “put in,” MEAN SOMETHING to a man. If he’s introduced us to his family or friends at work we’re on cloud nine. We think of these as “milestones” moving us closer to commitment and marriage. And we couldn’t be more wrong.

Time means NOTHING to a man. Sometimes, being in a comfortable HOLDING PATTERN with us is EXACTLY what he has in mind! They spend time with us, but then they go and commit to someone else.

Unless we can get into our man’s heart, and let him into ours to create a deep emotional bond,we DOOM ourselves to a superficial level that will never lead to a lifelong commitment.

Mistake #2: Thinking Exclusive = Committed

…women focus on getting a man to be exclusive - but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed…

How many of you have been comfortable in a relationship, only to have the man you are with meet someone else, or tell you he’s “found someone who really gets me.” How can it be that a man who is exclusive with you can “fall for” someone else so easily? It’s because he was not committed to you.

Oftentimes, women focus on getting a man to be exclusive - but this is only a temporary state. Instead, you need to focus on getting him committed to you. When that happens, he’ll be exclusive AND won’t “fall for” another woman ever again!

Mistake #3: Talking About Your Relationship, Not Creating It

Often when women feel their man becoming distant, they decide to TALK to him about it. To ask how he’s feeling, why he’s acting this way, or where the relationship is going.

When you talk to a man about your relationship, you have the OPPOSITE effect on him than you intend. Though we often hear men say how much they hate how “emotional” women are - this is exactly the part they CRAVE. They are so stuck in their brains, so much of the time, that if we’re stuck in ours, they can’t connect to us.

Every time we TALK about the relationship, it feels to him like a laundry list of to do items instead of INSPIRING a man to want to be with us.

Mistake #4: You Panic… He Leaves

Because we know that “Lifelong-Commitment” is a frightening thing to a man, we’re often afraid to say or do anything that might scare him more.

It’s easy to get paralyzed by fear and anger and stop being ourselves. We stop being the fun, relaxed women who he originally fell for who made him happy. This takes us further AWAY from the commitment we want.

A Surprisingly Simple Way To Trigger His Life-Long Commitment

I can teach you how to make sure his desire to HAVE YOU is GREATER than his fear of commitment. And this desire will continue if you can create an ongoing experience for him that makes him FEEL that committing to you is worth trading in his “freedom.”

In my relationship, I focused on getting my sense of POWER back, instead of trying to get HIM. I remembered everything I did in the very beginning of our relationship, when he couldn’t get enough of me and was totally chasing me. Instead of working so hard at the relationship, I worked hard on myself and on the rest of my life. I told myself that I’d be all right no matter what, and that if I stuck to my own plan, I’d have the relationship I wanted, even if it wasn’t with him.

And that’s when things REALLY started to MOVE. The “energy” between us changed completely. In my mind I became a prize he needed to pursue in order to “win,” rather than something he was already guaranteed to have for the rest of his life. And almost instantly - he started FEELING that same way.

I focused on making myself happy instead of trying to make HIM happy. I spoke to him like he was a ROOMATE I was sleeping with, instead of like a potential husband. And then, everything changed. Quickly.

I’d somehow hit on something that worked, and I didn’t even know what that was! Here I was, more attractive to him TIRED and UNCARING than I ever was trying to make him happy. Less than two weeks later, on my birthday, he proposed to me. It was very official - he’d brought a calendar to the restaurant so we could plan a date for the wedding!

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