Tuesday, December 20, 2011

“10 Mistakes You Must Stop Now To Have Any Chance At Winning Back Your Lover—And How to Get Your Ex Back…”

PLUS a little extra homework that will put a leash on your partner’s heart and pull them back in before it’s too late.
Read if you’re hurting from a recent break up…
OK, I’ve got some really important things to go over with you if you’re going to get your ex back. Time is of the essence, so I’m going to be as quick as possible.
I could tell you some things about me. Like I used to make big mistakes in my relationships… Did some embarrassing things while trying to get one in particular back… I learned a lot, had some success and now help other guys and girls get their EXes back…
…but really we don’t have time to go over my background in full yet. I’ll give you a chance later to give me your email and I’ll tell you more about me.
For now, we gotta get focused on some MAJOR F*@K UPs statistics say you’re most likely to make right now.
People who are in deep pain from a break up have a tendency to do the exact OPPOSITE of what you should do. So I’m actingfast to try and get you to stop before any damage is done.
In any disaster the first step is to stop the bleeding and then fix the problem.
Your relationship is no different. There may be some underlying problems with your relationship that must be fixed, but we can get to that next. Right now we need to STOP the bleeding.
So here’s the plan. I’m going to give some blunt advice. Not because I’m mean, but because you need it now more than ever. There’s no time to waste.
The first thing you need to do is STOP acting in a way that your lover is biologically predisposed to NOT feel attraction for.
That means being weak, passive and overly-agreeable. For biological and evolutionary reasons we don’t need to get in to now, women seek strong men who can protect them. And men don’t respect women who let them get away with everything (which means you’ll be habitually cheated on).
I know, after a break up it’s hard to give off the appearance of being strong. But it’s absolutely vital. And it’s not as hard as you think if you’ll just agree not to make these 10 mistakes.
We’ll start with 10 mistakes to quickly stop the damage, and then we’ll move on to some homework and point you to the materials you’ll need.


10 mistakes that convince your lover they made the right choice

OK, first the 10 mistakes. Then there’s some homework for you to do to lure your lover back.
People who get hurt are often the people who say they don’t want to play “games.” You know what? Too bad. The game is being played whether you know it’s your turn or not.
Men and women are constantly testing each other subconsciously to see if you’re a good choice for a long term mate. If you refuse to play along, you’re going to be left out.
You’ll find you can prove yourself worthy by avoiding these 10 mistakes.

MISTAKE #1: Acting Overly Nice And Believing It Makes You A Great Catch

Mistake #1How many times do you have to hear the cliché “nice guys (or girls) finish last” before you finally get it?
You can’t simply go along with everything your partner says and expect to have a great relationship.
Think of it this way. Every good story has conflict, right? Star Wars had good guys and bad guys. And in a similar way so did Pretty Woman and all other romantic comedies.
Conflict makes things interesting. And a relationship without conflict is BORING.
Being too nice comes across as being too passive, insecure, anxious, and predictable. That’s BORING.
Want to find that “spark” with someone special? Then don’t forget that it takes friction to create a spark. Stand your ground.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To Persuade Your Ex To Come Back With Logic

Mistake #2You cannot argue or logically persuade your way back into a relationship. Sure, you can argue yourself out of one just fine, but it doesn’t work in reverse.
You can’t convince a person to like you, love you or want to be with you. Emotions don’t work that way.
A person’s heart is reactive, not logical. So instead of trying to talk them back in to it, there are some things you need to DO to get their heart to respond.
In the homework I have for you we’ll talk more about ways to get your EXes heart fluttering for you again. But that comes in a minute. Moving on…

MISTAKE #3: Playing The Role Of Human Doormat

Mistake #3I hope this doesn’t describe you…
So many people plead with their ex, “Please stay, I’ll do anything you want…”
NO! Don’t do it. That doesn’t make for a romantic relationship. It may turn you in to a sex buddy for a short time, but they will lose all respect for you.
That means as soon as something better comes along, you’re gone. Do NOT beg to be taken back.

MISTAKE #4: Showering Your Ex With Flowers And Gifts

Mistake #4Ever heard, “Can’t Buy Me Love?”
Maybe it’s time you gave it a listen again. Flowers and gifts are best used to say THANK YOU or I LIKE/LOVE YOU. But it does NOT build attraction.
In fact, it can be a repellent. It tells your ex you don’t believe you’re good enough to be taken back on your own merits… so you pad the package with presents to cover up flaws. That’s an attraction-killer! Don’t do it.

MISTAKE #5: Saying “I Love You” Every 5 Minutes

Mistake #5It’s so easy to fall into this fatal trap of telling your ex-lover how much they mean to you and how much you love them… mistakenly believing once they “get” how much you love them they’ll come running back.
WRONG! It doesn’t work like that, or even close.
Smothering your ex with affection right now is not romantic. And despite what you may think, “But I really, really like you,” is not what your ex wants to hear.
Your strong feelings may in fact be the very thing that pushed your ex away to begin with. (Because it can come across as needy.)

MISTAKE #6: Missing The Whole Point Of Chemistry

Mistake #6Too many people completely miss the point of attracting the opposite sex because they do things that would attract themselves or others like them… in other words, people of the same gender.
No, I’m not saying you’re gay or even that you’re acting gay.
I’m just saying men and women are attracted to different things. You can’t use the same tactics that would work on you to woo a person of the opposite sex.
For example men are mainly attracted to a woman’s appearance while women are attracted to personality.
That doesn’t mean men should stop working on their appearance or that women should stop trying to be good people. But it does mean you need to make an effort to work on the things that will attract your partner.
We’re going to work on this in your homework. But for now just realize you need to know what attracts your EX and work on that.
Then you can work on learning the subtle body language cues and emotional hot-buttons turn them on without them even knowing it. (This is advanced stuff that sounds like voodoo, but it works! And we’ll cover it in your homework.)

MISTAKE #7: Giving Your Ex All Your Power

Mistake #7Do NOT act like your life is over if your ex splits.
This simply surrenders all power to your ex and makes you look like a pathetic wuss they can walk all over. That’s NOT attractive and it will only last until someone new comes along.
You absolutely MUST keep the respect of your ex if you want a chance at winning them back.
(If you fear you’ve already lost their respect, you can get it back. We’ll discuss that in your homework.)

MISTAKE #8: The Looks And Money Trap

Mistake #8Our culture makes it so easy for people to believe that looks and money are all people care about.
But you know what? People really aren’t that shallow. Especially after you’ve been involved in a close relationship with the person.
Looks and money are not the foundations of a lasting relationship. They’re window dressing, and window dressing always gets tired after a time.
Some people make the mistake of saying… “I’ll lose 15 pounds and then they’ll want me back.”
NO! You need to take action now. You’re doing that now by putting an end to the 10 most common mistakes, and then following up with your homework from then on.

MISTAKE #9: Mis-Reading The Cues

Mistake #9There’s usually a window when your ex is giving you a chance to make things right. But you NEED to read the cues to know when this window is, when it isn’t, and how to respond the way they’re hoping you will.
This part gets a little advanced, but you can learn from people who have studied human behavior, especially man/woman dynamics and romantic relationships.
When you get good at it you can begin to influence (or what some call “manipulate”) and gain control over any interaction with your ex by giving cues and signals of your own.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

Mistake #10Again, most people start a painful break up by making mistake after mistake. It’s a hard time for anyone to know what to do… but there is a right and a wrong way to try and win your ex back.
It makes some people uncomfortable but if you take the time to learn some things about psychology and people’s basic needs and desires from a partner, you can regain control and pull your partner’s heart back in to yours.
But you’ve gotta make the effort, and that means getting help. You’ve taken the first step by reading these 10 mistakes. Now it’s time to get to the homework.
Stop All Those Mistakes Now And You’ll Stop The Damage…


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